So job offers

A recruiter has reached out for a job opportunity. But it's from an old job location. It's for Vanpool, I would basically be driving kids to and from school. Unfortunately I did work for this company before, I had almost died from it. I didn't set any boundaries about where I was willing to drive for them. They sent me far out and I was having problems of finding places to eat or even just go home for break. Now that Im pregnant, my husband has brought up some good points, that I was disappointed by them in the past but they even said that they have new routes available of where we live so I wouldn't be too far from home, so that may not even be an issue. I guess I'm hoping to get advice from other moms who chose to do school van/bus driving. I know that it'll be a big change and not just for me. I know it'll be a big change for my husband and our son. I'm just looking for some guidance. Thank you.

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Boy mums 🩵💙 I need some advice before I start panicking

My very almost 2 year old has started acting quite emotional when his bum is being changed. He used to hate getting his nappy changed anyway, however he’s been really good the last 2 months at getting his own nappy, laying down etc but then when it comes to actually wiping his bum/privates…he gets REALLY upset and cries/forces his legs shut so I can’t clean up properly. I’ve had a look as best as he’d let me and there’s no redness or any cuts etc.

Is this normal? I have to hold both his legs open and basically fight him to get to the areas I need to get to. I try not to make it harder than it is for him so I am careful and try my best to comfort him while it’s happening. But what the heck is this all about? I was worried someone had hurt him but he’s never not with me so it’s impossible. I just don’t know where it’s coming from and why it’s so upsetting for him. Apart from this he is a great child who barely ever cries (unless he doesn’t get his way lol) but he can have a fall/cut and will be smiling and laughing.

When he’s in the bath and I wash his area (with water & not hard at all just a little wipe, nothing that will hurt) he also doesn’t seem comfortable with that either and tries to run away, he doesn’t get as upset it’s more of a game to him and sometimes laughs. It’s all very confusing. My partner says it’s a sensitive area anyway and while he’s young it might just be extra sensitive to touch. Any boys mums who can help? 🥲

In laws with kissing baby

I had to message my mother in law to please stop kissing my baby on the face…she messaged today for the first time since that conversation. I explained that we cannot meet up today as I’m sick (the cold that the in-laws gave us !!)…so she said “ok give baby a big kiss and cuddle from me”. Anyone else feel like that sounds really cheeky? Or am I taking it the wrong way😆basically just went in 1 ear & out the other.

Husband snatches phone out of my hand and refuses to let me look? Unacceptable? Am I being unreasonable?

I am 3 weeks emergency c section with our second baby (2 years). My partner got a new work phone a few weeks ago and he was sitting on it whilst at the dinner table. I asked him if I could have a look at it and I picked it up. He snatched it out of my hand and tried to hide it from me. He then refused to let me look at it and runs upstairs. He came back down stairs and explained that he didn’t want me to see a work email about a new job before he had a chance to talk to me about this.

I cannot understand the need to snatch, hide a phone and then leave the room over a work email.

I am feeling very angry with him and have refused to go to his family meal tonight and play happy families.

He is annoyed with me and is blaming me for ruining our evening and cancelling on his family.

I don’t want to believe he is hiding things from me but his reaction makes me think he is cheating/looking at things I wouldn’t approve of.

For reference, he has the passcode to my phone and goes on my phone all the time.

When and how to start weaning and introducing solids?

For UK mums, when did you start weaning your baby onto solids and how did you know they were ready? What first foods did you try and do you have any tips for getting started? I'd love to hear about your approaches and any advice for handling nerves about choking or reactions.

Husband wants to go on a trip 37 weeks pregnant

Just reached 37 weeks today. Husband wants to go visit his parents because he won’t see them for a while (they’re not visiting and we are only going to see them in feb). He thinks it’s doable. I’m very hurt and don’t feel prioritized. What to say

I need this off my chest.

I feel like I can’t breathe. Financial stability is so important. Since June we have been struggling bc realistically we can only afford our rent and bills, but since we have been waiting for the states benefits to renew, we’ve been struggling to stay afloat because we’ve had to buy food. I’m at that point where I’ve been going to the food bank once a month and the distribution centers every week. I’m grateful we still have WIC benefits. I feel like I’m drowning financially. My daughters birthday is coming up and I’m worried she isn’t going to be happy because I don’t have the money to buy her gifts.

We have what we need.
A place to call home. A vehicle that takes us from A to B.
Food. Electricity. Water. Entertainment! That’s a big one. Personally I want to cancel all streaming services and cut the internet bc that’s such a luxury to me.

It’s gonna be okay. I just think we’re conditioned to want more. Have more. More toys, more clothes, more food, more CONVENIENCE.

We have enough. I may not be able to give her a million presents, but I can give her my time, my love, my guidance. I can BE present with her and hopefully that’s enough for her. Hopefully she feels like the luckiest little girl in the world even though I can’t shower her with gifts.

This is only temporary. In a few years, her little brother will be going to school and I can go back to work/school. I can provide more.

For now, we learn how to be okay with less.