Potty training

I need to potty train my little girl. She is happy to sit on the toilet and does it for fun sometimes so planning to skip the actual potty and go straight to toilet. She had done a wee in the toilet on three occasions. She tells me when she is doing a wee or a poo and I think she is ready but I haven’t trained her yet because I’ve had a second baby 9 weeks ago. Now that she has adjusted to her baby brother I think I’m going to give it to go but I have no clue where to start and how to go about it.

Can anyone share the methods they used and any tips or tricks?

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How would you feel?

Ever since the weather has been nicer my daughter (3 1/2) has been spending much of the day outside playing with neighborhood kids which I love!
I’m a little more concerned about the parents, these kids are mostly a little bit older than my daughter and mostly range from about 5-8 (although one is only 2 🙃) but their parents are never in sight and have never talk to us while their children play in our backyard for hours a day (houses back up to one another). The kids have no outside toys to play with (not sure why) so I’ve told them all they’re more than welcome to play with ours when we’re home.
But would anyone else feel weird about kids playing in your yard daily and their parents never even acknowledging you? Or is this just an age thing since they’re mostly older kids (although one is only two🙃)

Jimmy Carr - fat, stupid kids

I'm fully in agreement with this. I think 'stupid' is a bit harsh but yeah, you gotta be a bit strict with your kids and be the one to hold the boundaries.

One of our family members has a son , who has since 3 yr old, been allowed to help himself to the snack cupboard where there is chocolate, crisps any junk food when he is 'hungry'. He drinks fizzy pop and juice.
There is no limit on screen time and he spends most days on his computer in his room.
He is probably 3 times his healthy weight, if not more.

It is really sad to see- he's statistically likely to be bullied for his weight and he can't keep up with kids his age.

They are both big too (but did not grow up that way) I just don't know why you'd want it for your kids.

And yes, you can think I'm being too judgy , but that's a kid's life and your parental choices have had a massive effect on his health and path in life.

Not pregnancy related but how would you feel?

So my husband goes away with work sometimes and he’s just been on what was a last minute work trip abroad for a few weeks. I’m obviously pregnant (34 weeks) at home with our two year old, he had to miss her birthday because of this trip so I’ve been really busy making that special and having lots of family over etc. doing it alone has been exhausting and I do find this aspect of his work hard to accept and sometimes feel a bit resentful about it when I have tough days. Bearing in mind he can be away from home for months on end sometimes.
Anyway, with work friends he’s obviously been going on nights out and I knew from him telling me that where they are there weren’t any clubs to end the night so everyone would end in the strip club/bar because it was open till early hours. He said nothing really was on display anyway and they just wanted somewhere to continue drinking. I’ve not had anything against strip clubs on the whole anyway so I felt fine about that.

Since he got home a couple of days ago, rightly or wrongly I got intrigued and asked if he’d had a lap dance. I know I shouldn’t have asked if I couldn’t handle the answer but yeah he said he did pay for one, it was one of the lads birthday and the four of them all had one, he didn’t want to be the only one not having one and waiting for the rest. So apparently they all had it in the same room but a girl each. I feel like because of the context of me being left at home to look after our child, heavily pregnant, taking care of everything alone, uncomfortable etc that I’m taking it harder than I normally would. I also feel more insecure in my self in terms of being sexually attractive to him which is natural when pregnant so this just made me feel even more vulnerable in that sense. The thought of another woman on him, him getting hard etc while I’m home in this situation. It feels like a betrayal, is it just pregnancy hormones making me feel worse or would you feel hurt by this? I don’t know how I want to be around him right now.

Puree pouches

Can someone enlighten me on why NHS advises against too many food pouches in one week? When they're organic and no added extras? It makes me feel really guilty/lazy for giving him them

Relationship advice

Really need some advice. My partner and I have been together for 4 years, we have a 7 month old baby. He is amazing with our baby and he helps me out so much. Sometimes he does a lot more than me and I really do appreciate him. We both live at my parents house and he is not in contact with his family. I’m just struggling to find the love now. I don’t know what it is. It’s been like it for a while. I don’t know if leaving him is a good idea, he would have no where to go and I would be breaking up our family when he has been nothing but amazing and our little boy loves him so much. I’m stuck. Could this still be from my hormones changing? I don’t know if I should wait it out to see if I feel something eventually or if I should leave him. But even if I did he would have absolutely no where to go.

Best friend of 15 years called me a desperate homewrecker. Thinking If I should let this friendship go or try to talk it out

My coworkers (male) birthday is coming up (Friday) and he has tickets to this comedy show and reservations to an extremely nice restaurant that he had made months in advance. He’s been talking about it for weeks and was so excited. He was originally going to go with his wife but she got into a car accident 2 weeks ago and had emergency surgery on her foot so she can’t go then today his best friend canceled on him( he was going to go with him instead). He was really down and depressed when he came into work today and he’s never like that so I asked what was going on and he told me how his friend canceled so I offered to go with him. He got so happy and went back to his usual high energy happy self. I called my friend to ask her to go to the mall with me after work so I can find a nice outfit she said that it’s wrong and disrespectful and that “you’re giving desperate homewrecker” then hung up. Me and him have worked together for 4 years and have formed a really close friendship (I’m his assistant). I’m a single mom and he has been nothing but great to me and my daughter. We go to lunch together, Iv met his wife, taken me to work then back home when my car was being serviced then paid the bill when he took me to pick it up, he has even gotten gifts for my daughter. He is really a good guy and is someone I really trust and have the most respect for him I would never jeopardize our friendship. Im so hurt by her comments and not sure how to bring this up to her or even if I should call her. It’s been a few hours and she hasn’t tried to text or call me so I’m thinking i should just block her and move on