Help I have no time to myself

Let That A baby Cry Herself Back sleep, Or Put something on her back like a stuffed animal or rolled up blanket to feel like she has body heat next to her.

I’m not sure if this is the kind of advice you want but..Recently my 9 month old has stopped napping in his crib and wants to contact nap. Like he will sleep 2.5 hours EASY if he’s on my chest, and 10-20 minutes if he’s alone in his crib. I just figure he’s going through a developmental leap or sleep regression and I changed my mindset instead of fighting him into the crib and causing him anxiety. I prepare myself mentally that he probably will not transfer to the crib, and if he doesn’t, I remind myself that he needs me right now and this is temporary. I will miss these peaceful moments with my tiny baby curled up with me. My chores can wait, my hobbies can wait, the world can wait. It will be there long after my baby has grown. I know each mom has their own needs, but that actually really helped me alot.

My 7mo is super fomo too! She stays up with me till like 10ish most nights and then I stay in bed near her and read/watch stuff, and sleeps in till 10 or 11 so I get some time in then :) it's only a short time she's gonna be so smol and cuddle-needy. Can you get someone to take over a night or so to give ya a wee break?

Do you ever do baby wearing/want to chat about babywearing?

Things I have found that help tremendously for putting her to sleep and then rolling away are:
- same sleep music playlist everytime we do bedtime or naps (it’s called 10 hours deep sleep on Spotify)
- same shusher the whole nap time
- turning on the fan as well
- close all the curtains to make it as dark as possible
- wait at least 15-20 min until I visibly see her softening or hear her snoring
- I NEVER roll away slowly. I do it QUICK. And have always done it as fast as I can and for some reason i feel like it works waaaaayyyy better.


- I actually get a lot of “me time” during her naps by putting in earbuds and watching my shows or reels, playing games on my phone, reading on the kindle app, etc. I borrow my husband’s switch to play Stardew Valley (super cute farming game) or I grab my computer and get some work in while she sleeps next to me as well.

Also when you are able to successfully roll away just a note - I have been setting up my camera whenever I do leave the room just to make sure I can see the second she wakes up so she doesn’t crawl off the bed now that she is crawling 😅.

But yeah I was going to say the more white noise you can have going on (fan, music, shusher, etc) and the more you reinforce that same routine every time the more used to it baby will get. It’s taken a little bit of practice but I have been doing that plus closing the curtains for 2 weeks now every nap and I would say I now have a 70-80% success rate of rolling away during her naps because she’s getting more used to the routine and the “sleep noise” stays even if I leave so it keeps that consistent.
I also have randomly found that helping her sleep on her stomach often gets her into a deeper sleep and she startles way less!

To be honest and probably not the best advice but it kept me sane (I have a boy) if he wasn’t settling I would just bring him back into the living room and play more (anytime before 8pm) I’d rather be having fun with him than getting stressed at 6.30pm trying to get him to sleep.