Advice needed

I keep waking up feeling like a bad mum!
My boy is 13 weeks old, for the last few nights he’s started stirring so I’ve popped his dummy in and he’s gone to sleep. This has resulted in me feeding him at about 4/5am after his last feed at 9/9.30pm. After that feed he won’t wake up fully (just stir and I pop dummy in until about 9/9.30am) I’m not questioning whether if I’m starving him through the night! Should I give him the dummy when he stirs or should I be offering him a feed?
Would he settle with a dummy and go back to sleep if he was actually hungry? As I know through the day when he’s hungry nothing settles him other than the feed so sometimes I have to feed him earlier than the 3 hours he usually goes.
Through the day he’s having about 6 feeds and he’ll take 160ml-170ml each feed. Is this enough to sustain such long gaps through the night? He appears to be gaining weight well , hes fit in 3-6months since bang on 12 weeks and he’s a very happy baby when he’s awake.

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As long as he’s gaining weight nicely, has plenty of wet nappies and is happy don’t worry about it. There’s some babies that sleep through the night meaning they have no feeds through at all. He’ll let you know he’s hungry as a dummy won’t satisfy him at all x

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You're doing great! Don't worry - although I know that's easier said than done! As Julia says, if he's happy, gaining weight and producing enough wet nappies then he's getting enough food. My 12-week old will sometimes sleep from 11pm to 7am without feeding. Babies sometimes stir during the night between sleep cycles. That's normal and if they're soothed by a dummy that's great!

A dummy might mask the earlier hunger cues during the day, e.g. licking lips, but it won't mask the later cues (crying!) so don't worry - if he's hungry you'll know about it! x

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My little girl is exactly the same. I used to wake her up just to feed her as I was worried but she almost seems to sleep better if I leave her to wake herself up. I think we're all just told how babies never sleep through the night so we think there's something wrong when they do x

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Enjoy it! .. may allah bless him and guide you to do the best😘😘

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My little boy is similar. If hungry the dummy is out and the feed is demanded (even if less that 3 hours during the day similar to your baby) but at night he sometimes wakes and I can tell he wants th feed as he won't really accept or settle with the dummy. Other nights he will happily accept dummy and sleep a further 4 hours of deep sleep ! I wouldn't worry at all xx

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My son is 14 weeks born January 7th, he goes to bed between 1930 and 2000 every night and has a bottle before bed. I then give him another around midnight and he sleeps till about 0630/0700 most mornings. He stirs during the night and I’ve offered him a bottle but he takes about 10-20ml then continues fussing. He usually just wants his dummy and if that doesn’t settle him, I offer him a bottle.

He stirs during the night usually just due to normal sleep cycles. If he’s hungry I know all about it and I’m sure your little one would let you know. They’re starting to understand night and day at this age apparently so your little one is maybe just settling into a good sleeping pattern!

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Dummy - if you can get them to sleep through do it. If baby is over birth weight they can sleep through no issues. We are last bottle at 9/10pm and next is 7-8am

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Sounds like you’ve found a great way to settle your little one. If it works for you, I’d stick with it 😊

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