Is this ungrateful or justified?

So my partner will be proposing this year, I just know it and we have never discussed what ring Id like. I am jewellery wearer and therefore quite particular with my style - after all I’m guna wear it for life. When I have tried to speak to my partner about my preferences he says I’m ungrateful and says he’s offended I think he doesn’t know me. I’ve even sent him photos of exact style. But then I accidentally caught a glimpse on his camera roll of a ring he’s screenshot and it’s a completely different style to what I would choose. I also know it’s close to £1k because it’s very blingy and I just want to tell him NO don’t spend all that money because the ring I actually want is so minimalist and costs half that money. What do I do?

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Meant to say - we hadn’t discussed it before recently so I don’t mean to offend him but how could he know what I want!

What happened to ring shopping together? That would be a lovely romantic way to spend some time together....

Just a thought, my husband said when he proposed that he was so happy that friends and family loved my ring. I asked about this and he said there’s sometimes a weird judgment that men feel if the ring isn’t a “decent size”. He said he’d have been embarrassed if I was showing off a cheap ring cause it also reflects on him and how much he values me. At the end of the day it’s a symbol of his commitment to you, it’s a modern day dowry.

Is he disregarding your choice because he thinks it’s too minimal and therefore not a “proper” ring to him and his friends/family?

Men can be weird like that.

I personally wasnt picky just said i would like minimalist and silver in colour as im not a fan of gold, left the rest up to him as i knew it ment alot more for him to suprise me then it did me picking it and im pretty happy with it

Maybe hes hoping to spoil you, i know some people who have a blingy ring they wear out on special occasions and get a secound for everyday wear so maybe thats an option?

Why doesnt he want to take your preferences into account? I would bring it up again ans maybe ask him to check with a sister or friend if you like the style,

If it doesnt go through id consider buying him a wearable gift that really isnt his style and see if that makes the point

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