Telling toddlers no

How are we telling them no or telling them off when doing naughty/dangerous things?
My boys constantly pushing boundaries and it feels like he’s up to no good more than behaving 🫣🌪️.
Today for example he let go of dads hand and ran in a road we caught him and then tried to explain no this is dangerous and why it is. He doesn’t listen just starts legging it again. When at home if he’s been doing things he shouldn’t we tell him and tell him why we shouldn’t and then if he does it again we have put him on the step but he just messes about we’ve even tried putting him bed but he either just messes about or gets so upset that I go get him.
I don’t know how to tell him off so he listens I feel like I end up shouting more than I’d like to admit through frustration.

It’s getting to the point that most days are miserable and I feel it’s starting take a strain on me and my husband

Any tips 🙏🏼

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I need to follow this because our little boy is exactly the same and it feels like I could write this. Mum guilt for shouting is the worst too and with the anxiety its like I can't rationalise! I fell you Mama, but you're not alone and the struggle is real! X

Nursery taught ours ‘listening ears’ so we tell her to turn her listening ears on. She’ll click them on then listen (mind you not Ina full on tantrum)
We tend to explain a lot what’s going to happen before it happens if that makes sense. So like with the road, explain before hand what expecting of her and why.
Not saying she always listens and doesn’t do naughty things but it’s helped a fair bit
Then if she does something, mostly hurting her sister or throwing food then she has to get down from the table or move away from sister etc and again just explain when she’s calm, more often than not says sorry but then does the same thing again and again. I think that’s just their age

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