Partner help

Stay at home moms with babies how often does your partner help you? And what do they do to help if they do?

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When it's a work day, my husband is getting better at sitting with our son while I finish dishing up dinner or if I need just a minute before we eat. Most of that part of the night is spent with him taking his time in the bathroom and showering, though. Usually by the time dinner and his bathroom time is done, our son is finishing up his last little nap of the night. When Im fully putting our son down for the first night stretch, my husband will get the room, my snacks, and my water completely ready and make sure I have everything within reach. He also fully takes care of the dogs by himself aside from me walking them once during the day while he works.

Every morning, he's in charge of starting the coffee and making me a cup before he leaves while I nurse the baby.

Nights have been a fight for a long time, but he's finally starting to get it. So this is new, but during the night I will wake him up when our son does if I need to go to the bathroom, if our son needs changed, or if its been a decent stretch and I need to pump. He does most of the night changes now then makes sure I dont need anything before going back to sleep while I breastfeed and rock the baby back to sleep.

My husband jumps right in as soon as he gets home whether it be entertaining kids while I finish dinner or vice versa, helping with baths/showers/homework, tucking kids in, or doing dishes while I do that. We're 100% a team and working doesnt exclude you from raising the kids you helped create. He WANTS to be a dad and husband. And after all kids are asleep and housework is done he typically has more work in the office to do for a few more hours.

He does dishes, his own laundry sometimes, he takes over with our son whenever he's not working and spends intentional non distracted play time. He gets up with our son sometimes. When our son poops before he leaves for work he ALWAYS changes him. And when I have morning sickness with my current pregnancy he takes over completely.

My husband is an great helper, especially because neither he or I have any family or friends in the state in which we live. He handles our 3-year-old daughter at night, keeps them busy when I'm cleaning up in the evenings, and if he's available, he'll watch them if I'm extremely exhausted and need a nap.

he doesnt help like physically with anything, he financially provides everything we need and want🥹

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Advice/ perspective

I have a two month old and his dad who lives 2 hours away wants him overnight like a week or 2 I told him I don’t feel comfortable with being far away from my baby for a week or even longer his dad is calling me selfish and controlling he is also saying that his family haven’t got to spend anytime with the baby either (they have just not as much as they want) am I being unreasonable? Would any one else send their 2 month old 2hrs away for a week or 2 ?

Does anyone else have a higher percentile boy?

I don't know who to share it with, because I don't want to come off as ungrateful for such a healthy, big boy.. but my son is now 2 and a half, and officially 92% in height, and 94% in weight. He was born at 21 inches, and has always been in the high 80-90% range for height, weight, and head size.

It's just.. it's hard. He's 2. He's still waiting to be held all the time, and it was starting to be a struggle to hold him starting around a year old. It's not fair to him. I feel guilty. He didn't understand why I would have to put him down so quickly when he was younger, and I hope it didn't make him feel like I didn't want to or something.

It's a weird situation that none of my friends can relate to.

Does anyone here relate?

Thanks for listening 💕

(Adding that I have used baby carriers, hip packs, etc. He doesn’t like them.)

Could someone explain the UK school system to me please?

I'm not from the UK but I asked my husband who grew up here and went to school here and everything and he also seems confused.

My kid is at nursery but I'm really confused about all the options after. There seem to be preschools, but some nurseries are also preschools, some people talk about kindergarten from 3+ but I think they are American. Then there's reception and year 1 and maybe some other things I didn't mention.

I read a thread about kids born in the summer months and that they can be held back. I'd like to do this with my kid but from what people said, it's not as straight forward. Several people said that if you hold them back a year, they would just start in y1 instead of reception, which I don't understand. They said there are only downsides because the kid would no longer be with their peers. A mum friend of mine has been talking about sending her kid to school once he turns three and that she can't wait to be done with nursery.

I'm just so confused. When I grew up in a different country, all we had was kindergarten from 3 till 6, then school. There was an option of going to preschool for those old enough for school but not mentally or physically ready yet. That was it. I think it had now changed there as well though.

If anyone could explain all this to me, I'd be super grateful!

When you're trying to learn digital painting...

But your 3 year old decides to dictate what you draw.

Do you know what each one is? Because he does 😂

Vent

I need to vent a minute my husband and I were arguing Saturday which yes it was mostly my fault I started my period and just was a bad day mood well because of it he’s basically told me to piss off until he calms down which theres been so much tension this past week because of it that I feel like I’m going to explode it doesn’t help that the only people I have to talk to adult wise are him and my mom and nobody I can vent to about it (my mom stays out of it and doesn’t want to hear about it unless it gets physical). Also I’m a SAHM and since my car went down me and him share his truck or did anyways I was supposed to get a car with income tax but it now seems like we may not make it until then so with me not working and no car I could be stuck…

i guess i’m looking for validation

My daughter is 6 weeks tomorrow. we have been dealing with colic for the last 4 weeks because of her formula. thankfully we figured it out about 2 weeks ago. but the witching hour still hits pretty hard in our house. anyway, i have a 2.7yo toddler. my daughter usually cries nonstop from 6:00-9:00pm. my sons bedtime is 8:00pm and we do a nighttime reset at 7:00pm every night. my husband works night shift and leaves at 6:30pm. i babywear my daughter while my son helps me clean up. at 8:00 i put her down in a safe location and do my sons bedtime. i take him to his room, read him a book, sing the “now i lay me down to sleep” prayer. then sit for a second. then go back downstairs to my daughter. during this time she is of course crying and downstairs alone. i feel like such a sh*t mom. but this is literally the only time my son gets me to himself. so am i really a sh*t mom for this or am i just in my head?