Sex PP

Was wondering how is your sex life faring post partum? I had 3rd degree tear, my labour was really rapid that I wasn’t given anything for pain management. Also, later my stitches came a little undone from outside that took a little longer to heal. I still feel sore down there sometimes and when we tried penetrative sex I found it a little painful and honestly I want to avoid it for a while. But it feels like a lot of women seem to not have this issue? Would love to hear how it’s like for other women, I feel like I am being too sensitive maybe and maybe it’s more in my head.

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Physically - I had healing issues with my episiotomy for the first 10 weeks. So was in discomfort and pain and didn’t want to try having sex. So only tried to the last 4 weeks. First 3 times really hurt and it wouldn’t get past a certain point so couldn’t, but last 2 times I just tried relaxing as much as possible breathing in and out very slowly to relax and eventually went in. I don’t feel the exact same pleasure yet that I did before
I think because I’m still bit nervous incase starts hurting but am sure that’ll come.

Emotionally - I used to have such a high sex drive I’d be the one initiating always, whereas now it’s literally the last thing I want to do… feels horrible, but have absolutely no drive. I am breast feeding so have heard that can kill it. But also just so bloody tired and distracted. So we’ve only done it about 2-3 times and i gave birth 8th December..!

Hope that helps at all!

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