Sleep

Baby boy has never slept through the night which we accepted early on, contact naps in day. The hourly waking up is driving us crazy. Exclusively breastfeeding and as weeks go on he is adamant to be fed to sleep and uses it as comfort through out the night. Really considering a sleep trainer but heard mixed reviews about this as they don’t always stick to the routine. My husband helps as much as he can which is great. Any tips and honest advice will be so so appreciated please!!! 7 months in and I’m losing hope…

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This is normal, where does he sleep?

I can't offer any help unfortunately but I'm right there with you except mine is formula fed. I am exhausted

Still going through this as well what I’ve learned that can help is keeping a steady routine like the death bottle bed method so your baby knows when it’s time to go to sleep. set the mood use a white noise machine. If you have keep the room dark at bedtime. I’ve also learned that because you are breast-feeding and if you sleep next to the baby, he can smells your milk throughout the night and from that he gets a sensory trigger that will cause him to wake up and want to feed. and if you’re having trouble getting him to sleep on his own as well, try the Ferber method. oh, and not every time your baby wakes up he’s hungry. Sometimes You can try putting him back to sleep without feeding him

I couldn’t sleep train my first kid until he was ready to drop night feedings. Then he’d only wake if he wanted held. At that point I was tired of getting up for no reason. Pretty sure that was around 9 months 🫤 your little one sounds normal, and it is exhausting.
My husband didn’t think cosleeping with us was safe in bed so I slept on the couch. Hope you get to stay in bed

When I read “my baby still doesn’t sleep through the night” I thought maybe your child is 5 or something and at that stage that might not be normal (though for some it is). But at 7m it is extremely normal and the norm. Yes there are some babies that do and their parents have just lucked out. It’s about 20-25% from what I’ve seen from a recent study

I wasn’t one of the lucky ones hahah and my baby is not sleeping through the night at 22m. The stretches are getting longer, and every since he’s been about 11-13m I’ve not been sleep deprived anymore. I have a comfy set up, sharing my bed, BF him when he wakes (the absolute quickest way to go back to sleep) and get between 7-8h (broken up) most nights like that. You can do that too once you find your comfy set up (Laurynes comment has some amazing advice).

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Did anyone like this pram ? X

I’m not very happy with the nursery.

My baby is 11 months old and has just started settling-in sessions this week. Some sessions have gone okay—she even managed to nap—but others have been much worse, with her crying for up to an hour.

The last session (4 hours) is what made me feel most uncomfortable about the nursery.

1. The staff seem extremely strict, and the way they speak to parents can feel quite harsh.
2. My baby drinks pumped breast milk. The staff said I could bring breast milk but didn’t clearly explain in what form. Apparently, they only accept it in pouches and not in bottles. When I brought it in a bottle, they spoke to me harshly and said they “don’t know what I’ve put in it,” which felt unfair—it’s the same milk whether it’s in a bottle or pouch. It came across as if they were accusing me of tampering with it.
3. If I forget something or do something wrong (like the milk issue), they overreact and speak in a very telling, almost mean way.
4. They don’t provide regular updates on the family app, so I have to contact them myself to find out how my child is doing. Sometimes they do and sometimes they’re don’t. The communication is not clear and they simply tell me off that it’s written in the policy, I mean they can remind me. The woke with parents on the daily basis and I was expecting them to be more understanding.
5. During the last session, I brought breast milk in a bottle and was told off. I even offered to go home and bring it in a pouch, but they said no. Four hours later, they asked me to pick her up because she couldn’t sleep—and they hadn’t given her any milk because it was in a bottle. They also said she didn’t want to eat the food provided (pizza and oat milk). When I got home, she was clearly starving and drank two bottles of milk. I’m upset that they didn’t offer alternatives like toast or fruit or ask me what she might eat.
6. The staff wear strong perfume, and my child comes home smelling of it, which bothers me.
7. The nursery is nut-free because one staff member has an allergy. I try my best to avoid nuts, but if I accidentally include something, they say they will call me to pick my child up because they cannot care for her. I find this difficult as I am working and paying for childcare?
Is this a regular thing with nurseries? Would it be unreasonable to ask them not to wear perfume when carrying for my child as she has eczema and it’s unpleasant to have her face smelling of perfume? Anyone else had problems like this?

Birds!!

Omg these frickin birds chirping at 4 am are CONSTANTLY waking my baby up. It’s driving me insane. He’s got like supersonic hearing or something. We have his brown noise turned up, window closed, black out blinds pulled down that are supposed to dampen noise, and the fan on. And sure enough he starts stirring every day when the birds start going. That’s it. That’s the post. It’s just so annoying!!! Anyone else?

Is this a normal thing?

I gave birth yesterday and had a second degree tear pretty much in a straight line downwards but not too close to my butt hole.
The midwife however had to put her finger up my butt twice when stitching me back together. It was traumatising on top of literally giving birth minutes beforehand 😭 Has anyone else had this happen?? She only explained the second time that she was checking she hadn't stitch into my anus which is OK but I'd rather have been told beforehand, also I don't understand why she'd need to check when she had just explained to me (and the student midwife) that the tear didn't go to the anus. Is this a normal check that they do?

I had a 2nd degree tear with my first baby but I'd had an epidural and was completely out of my face on other medications, mixed with just a terrible birth experience I didn't even take in when the doctor sewed me up, but they never mentioned abing yo put their fingers up there 😬

How long does your newborn go before they need a feed?

I have a 6 week old and he goes around 1.5 hours before wanting to feed again. He drinks around 60-80ml per feed. I am breastfeeding and formula feeding. How can I make this time longer in between feeds.

Tumble drying baby clothes

I have a tonne of new baby clothes I have to wash. I keep seeing everyone using the washing line to dry. Can I tumble dry baby clothes ?