vent? maybe advice?

i drive a Tacoma that my fiance and i share. we’re still paying it off - about 16k left. we have one son and a dog. i usually sit in the back with the baby while our dog sits up front in the passenger. it is pretty tight in the car. so we’ve been talking about getting a bigger car, an SUV. but we are so tight on money. I’m a SAHM and he works full time. some months we don’t have money for some things. but he wants to buy a brand new car! I’ve been trying to say that it’s not a smart financial move rn. and he always says I’m “belittling” him by saying i know better about our money situation.

anyway my grandmother passed 2 weeks ago and left me an inheritance. and i really don’t want to spend it on a new car. we’re already planning to pay off our credit card debit with the money. weve been arguing about the car for a week. he keeps saying I’m gaslighting him and that he works hard for the family and that i could contribute from my inheritance.

am i an asshole for not wanting my inheritance to go to a new car??? every time we fight or argue i just want to be done. we can’t go a whole day without arguing about something!

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Baby nursery

How’s everyone’s nursery’s coming along?! Would love to see pics of them! Still got some bits and bobs to do but we’re getting there😆

Being a boy Mam really isnt for the weak

I know I have both genders for children. BUT being a Mam to my son is hard and frustrating, like I remind him everytime he goes to the toilet to point his Willy down because well he pisses all over the seat and even on the floor (he sits on the toilet been trying to get him to go like a "normal boy" But he won't even go for bush wees when we try and get him to but will hold it till he gets to a toilet)

My daughter is 19 months so I'll be potty training her in the next year and of course I don't know what that's gonna be like but yeah honestly being a Mam to a boy just isn't for the weak 😂

Would you let her babysit?

My family goes to the same restaurant weekly, have been going for over a year so they know us
The manager (45-50 if I had to guess) comes and talks to us, she loves kids so she loves coming and seeing how my son is (he’s almost 3)
Eventually after getting more familiar she asked me if she could take my son to walk around the restaurant, my family and I always take turns doing this when he gets fussy
I said it’s fine since I can see and I know she’s not going anywhere, later she said if I’m ever in need of a babysitter to let her know
I really could use a babysitter, I never have time to myself, but is it okay to trust her? I don’t want to be too trusting but I also don’t want to be paranoid
So moms who are protective but not paranoid, what do you think? Should I let her babysit? Is this what having a village is?

Partner help

Stay at home moms with babies how often does your partner help you? And what do they do to help if they do?

Tips for giving slippery finger foods!

My 6m baby is obsessed with red bell pepper. But after I have removed the skin and steamed it, its super slippery. He gets frustrated trying to hold onto it. I think ive seen you can put ground flax seeds on things to help with grip. But is that actually safe??

Opinions on my sons lunch 1 1/2 years old

homemade fried chicken, homemade ranch dressing, homemade zucchini, fries, ketchup, pepper, jackcheese cubes, cherry tomatoes, orange slices