Partner working a lot

I’m not sure if I’m asking for too much, my husband has his own business and it’s been busier than usual and short of staff. I’m a week from my due date and we have a 3 years old, which I stay home with. I’m just felling that I’m taking myself to the limit here! Now he tells me he’s not sure if he can take days off this week. I really appreciate his efforts as he’s the breadwinner but I also need support specifically at this stage of pregnancy.

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It sounds like you are both doing your best.

Do you know the impact of he took two days off? Would the business take a huge hit / be at risk or would it just have a rough few days but no long term effects?

Is there anyone else who can support you if he needs to be working?

Omg do get me started i have same issue but i have a 9 week old n two tear old and teenager my partner works in a different country for three months at a time im sick of it now! Truly fed up its been tough!

Sounds like my husband.

My husband worked right up until I had the baby because he gets no paternity leave at all as he’s self employed. Every extra day worked was a day he could “afford” not to work when baby arrived. To him, every penny was needed and his nerves show when finances are tight and the stakes are high.

I'm sure if he could be would. He's trying to catch up or stay a head so he can have some time when the baby arrives. Talk to him and ask him if he's going to take some time off when the baby arrives. All him how many full days you can expect to have support and when his support will go to only half days. Have someone, if possible, pick up the other half days. Parent, friend, cousin are great options. Maybe he works in the morning and I'm the evening getting help. Since he's so busy, you can find that support, you just need to know his plans. Maybe going to his work, with the kids, once a week for lunch or meeting out for dinner. Surely there are things you could do to help him out at his business since he's so short staffed. Lick envelopes, send out invoices, make phone calls, put out flyers, run social media....

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Drunk husband 38 weeks pregnant.

We had a farewell party tonight. We bbq and watched the playoffs and bonded. My sister in law is going to basic for the navy and tonight is her last night before leaving. Well. My husband doesnt normally drink but my father in law does and well. Everyone of legal age to drink were doing shots. My husband had about 26-30 shots of tequila because he was doing the double shot glass. Which is why its so high. Well. My brother in laws managed to get him and our toddler in the car. I drive home. He begins to hurl. OMG. I almost threw up. We get home. Hes crying and apologizing. I settle our toddler in the house. I leave him in the garage to get his throw up clothes in the washer and I begin to clean the vomit around him. (I didnt want to track the vomit into the house) I call my in laws in the process letting them know we made it home. He threw up but he ok. His sister said leave him in the car with his vomit he needs to deal with that on his own. I laughed it off like hahahaha but reallly..tf. He tells me to leave him where he is at. Im said no you are so drunk you can aspirate on vomit and you are my husband. I get my green Bissell I clean up whatever vomit I could while he is still in the seat. Im helping him take off his clothes and suctioning the throw up. I throw up because well. its throw up. I tell him i got what I could but he is going to have to remove his seat because its EVERYWHERE. I leave the car windows down and leave the rest of the cleaning for him tomorrow morning. I got as much as the seat would allow. I get his clothes in the washer. Him in the shower. I wash the vomit off his body. Gave him fluids and got him dressed and in bed. Should I have done what I had done or not? Would you leave your spouse in their own mess or help them out?

Would you let her babysit?

My family goes to the same restaurant weekly, have been going for over a year so they know us
The manager (45-50 if I had to guess) comes and talks to us, she loves kids so she loves coming and seeing how my son is (he’s almost 3)
Eventually after getting more familiar she asked me if she could take my son to walk around the restaurant, my family and I always take turns doing this when he gets fussy
I said it’s fine since I can see and I know she’s not going anywhere, later she said if I’m ever in need of a babysitter to let her know
I really could use a babysitter, I never have time to myself, but is it okay to trust her? I don’t want to be too trusting but I also don’t want to be paranoid
So moms who are protective but not paranoid, what do you think? Should I let her babysit? Is this what having a village is?

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I’ve always wanted 3 children, but happy if I only had 2 - I really want my child to atleast have one sibling …

My son is 3 and my husband is 38…
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