How do I leave

I've been with my daughter's father for three years going on 4, the longest relationship I've ever been in. And our daughter is 2 will be 3 at the end of the year same time we started dating. Yeah we didn't have much time to get to know each other before getting pregnant not to mention I left him to go back to an ex then cam crawling back then got pregnant but I really don't feel like we're together I feel like roommates and we fight all the time I work graveyard 10 hr and he works 2pm-9pm he says he's more tired because he cooks well I serve I be tired too but I'm supposed to keep the house in order because the house represents the woman and I take care of our child as well I can go on and vent but it's pretty clear I want to leave but hes always saying " the house is in my name cars in my name your not takingy kid but GTFO " EVERY TIME WE FIGHT" I have no family to go to and where I am there's not many places that help with housing (that I can find) so and advise thanks in advance ❤️✨🫂

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Does anyone else get upset when your spouse spanks y’all kids?

Nothings changed

My husband’s life has not changed one bit since having a baby meanwhile my whole life has changed. He comes and goes as he pleases, goes out with friends, showers when he wants, eats when he wants, goes to the bathroom when he wants. He owns a business so he’ll work and then just do as he pleases with zero consideration of the fact Ive been home alone with a baby all day. One time I up and left to try and teach him a lesson. I was gone for one hour and sat in a parking lot drinking coffee. He called me 3 times and texted me 2 times within that hour.. yet he didn’t learn his lesson. What else can I do?

Money advice

So I love shopping and spoiling my son with clothes etc anything really & I’ll admit I can awful with money. We have been together 10 years and just brought a house (I had some money from family member will)

I want to be able to save but I just can’t like I physically can’t. Where can I start?

Each month I have to just life off my wage from work (I work 21 hrs a week but normally pick up shifts and do like 37/60 hrs a week)

HELP

Weaponize incompetence

Hi! My husband didn’t change our baby diaper.
So after dinner , I take the kids outside to run off extra energy.
Well the 1 year old was still eating so I had asked dad to change him, put a shirt on him and bring him outside. Ok so he handed baby to me (outside ) and his diaper was full of poop. And I said “why didn’t you change him?” He said “it’s a gift for you!”
I rolled my eyes and wanted to scream!

Nursery Funding

Hi everyone. I am getting really confused about nursery funding. My husband works part time and I am also working part time. I have been telling my husband to apply for funding as I don’t know much for the last few months but he doesn’t seem to be bothered and every time he comes with some new reason. He said we can’t get free funding for nursery because our earning is more than £16000 a year. Is it true. My baby is already two. Please anyone guide me🙏. Also can someone please tell me the process how can I apply for funding hours??

Feeling deflated

My partner is self employed so sets his own working hours but I feel he is being difficult with his flexibility
When I was supposed to go back to work last year October after agreeing to everything (me working 2 hours in the evening so he helps out toddlers eat dinner then play with them until I’m done and I can put them to bed) it comes to my first keeping in touch day and after asking him to help them eat dinner he takes himself upstairs leaving me to try and work and help them eat, the type of job I had, had very strict targets and I wasn’t allowed background noise

So I bought it up later on that day and he basically said if I want do go back I need to figure out where they’re going to go but also if I don’t want to go back then I need to figure out how I’m going to pay my share of the bills

For context we do not trust nursery’s or day care and in theory he doesn’t want them to go also both my kids are under 3 so would be too expensive for us anyways

Now I’m in a situation where the only work I can do is remote flexible evening roles which as you can imagine r hard to come by as sometimes he isn’t home by bed time so obvs I couldn’t leave to go to an actual job

I feel a bit stuck as he is unwilling to watch them for a set period of time consistently which I think isn’t asking too much as their dad

At the moment I do do some admin work for my parents business and they pay me I also sell on Vinted but this is only enough for food so I’m very behind on bills
We have applied for UC but our application got cancelled with little explanation, we have applied again so waiting to see if we get anything

I feel like if I was able to get an evening job it would make our financial situation better but I can’t rely on him to be home to watch our toddlers 😞