Does your husband do enough around the house?

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I do more but that's only because I'm a SAHM. He does contribute when he is home, though.

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He does more than me I'd say. Bins, cooks 3-4 days a week, dishwasher 98% of the time bcs I hate it. Takes care of the garden and green house. After 5pm he usually looks after our baby so I can do whatever I want.

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I do more, but I WFH and have the time to do it 🤷‍♀️ otherwise were both doing it after bed time and honestly id rather not.

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I was just fussing about this,this morning, thus generation have not clue wanna be grown so bad and dont do grown people stuff.

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My man works full time plus over time and will come home and take care of all the house work and our babies! Anything I don’t get done he does. His days off he takes on all housework. He lets me focus on our babies and even then he’s still extremely involved with our kids and does absolutely anything that’s needed even without me having to ask and if I do have to ask I only have to ask once and it’s done right then!

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I clean during the week, he cleans during the weekends. I do the deep cleaning during the week, Baseboard and such, sahm.

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I do more now but that’s cause I don’t work anymore. When we were both working full time it was a pretty even split.

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I had to leave my kids for 2 days when I was in the hospital having a baby and it looked like my house could be on an episode of hoarders when I returned. I was blown away. It was 55 hours that I was gone.

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He does all of the stuff that I don’t want to do like pick up dog shit, clean the garage, and mow the lawn while I do more of the inside cleaning so it balances out.

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He does a lot more than me right now, but we’re working on changing that especially when I start being a sahm this summer

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I do more but I’m a SAHM and he works anywhere between 50-70 hours a week. But when he’s home and on weekends he definitely contributes.

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Unfortunately I’m a “clean in order to relax” kind of person, and he’s a “relax in order to clean” kind of person

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I do more but its not like he doesn't want to its just that he's the breadwinner and busy with work but when he's free he does anything he can without being asked.

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I do more, but he definitely does enough. He works full time, I work part time, so I end up doing more housework, but he jumps in with whatever needs doing when he gets home, tidying up or childcare etc. We're a team and don't really count whose done what.

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He works overtime and a second job on weekends, as much as I would like the help it wouldn't be fair to expect him to take care of the house unless I was sick or injured or something like that

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It’s equal compared to the amount of time we each spend at home. He works I’m SAHM

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