Needing advice

I have a friend who I was really close with, until she started asking me to pay for things because she didn’t have money. Always promising to pay me back because I trusted she would when she could (definitely shouldn’t have done that and I’m feeling very stupid about for doing it). She now has money and is buying herself luxuries like tattoos and new sets of nails and hasn’t even tried to pay me back. I lent her the money out of the goodness of my heart because I knew she was struggling and I wanted to do a nice thing. She now owes me $345 and every time I bring up that I’m struggling I just get “awe hun I understand”. How would I go about asking her for it back. She’s very much the type of person that if you bring up subjects she doesn’t like (like her owing money) she cuts you off, and I want my freaking money back.

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Id literally say - you look like your back on your feet again now which is great so Id like to talk about getting the money I lent you back.

If she isn't going to pay you back id be sacking her right off.

In honesty, she knows she should be paying you back so id sack her off regardless but thats just me

The same way she asked to borrow money off you, can you not do the same to her? As in if you went out to eat, ask her to cover yours and you’ll pay her back (like hell you will🤣)

So that way you can eventually get back all that she stole and when the debt is clear, tell her to fuck all the way off, don’t hold back, make sure she knows what a snidey bitch she is then block and delete.

Or better yet, invent some bullshit like you are due a huge bonus from your job coming in the next month, but you’re $500 short on rent this month/need to fix something on your car/some other emergency and can she lend you the money? Then go no contact and when she asks where her money is, let her fucking know!! And tell her you’ll pay her back the $155 you owe in $1 monthly payments, see how she likes being treated as a punk bitch 😂

Some people have no shame. You shouldn’t even have to ask. I would take the L and absolutely cut my losses. Or if I really really needed it I would be so straight with her.

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I’ve been trying to find friends forever but always end up getting ghosted! It’s been really hard and lonely. I’m 18 with a 11 month old girl from Idaho trying to find mom friends!! Let’s ft or text :))
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I feel like I don’t hear about part time working moms!

I’m sharing my story hoping to find another momma to talk to about things….

Before I got pregnant I found out that my (now) fiancé was messaging other girls and flirting with them. I have been in many HORRIBLE relationships so honestly the messaging didn’t really bother me much. We talked about it and moved on. At least that’s what I thought. We moved into a place together late July 2025, found out I was pregnant early August and by the end of September I had found out he went and slept with some chick and paid her $250 to finish in her. He did this before work one day which happened to be just hours after we had to go to the ER vet to have one of our guinea pigs put down… the only reason I found out either time was because I had went through his phone since we made an agreement in our relationship that we were allowed to at anytime (solely said this to give each other peace of mind). At this point I almost left him but he realized he has a problem and found a therapist that day to start going to so I stayed by his side. Well, it went from messaging girls from tinder to going through Reddit (I swear it’s the worst thing ever made at this point). It’s an official thing that he is a sex addict and him and his therapist have been working on things. This morning he calls me on his way to work while I’m exactly 2 weeks postpartum and primarily taking care of our daughter (because he works 10 hour shifts 5 days a week and an 8 hour shift on Saturdays with a little over an hour for driving one way, so he’s gone 12.5 hours a day) and tells me that he had confessed to someone he still has sexual desires for them but is not doing anything about it, granted this is progress with him being open about it but it doesn’t make it any easier to hear. I guess the girl screenshotted it so now I get to play the game of “who is going to send me a “hey girly” text”…… part of me just wants to ask him who it was but another part of me doesn’t want to know. I feel so much resentment towards him and I want to say I wish I never got with him in the first place but then I wouldn’t have my amazing baby girl and I genuinely can’t imagine my life without her. I’m just all over the place with thoughts so if anyone has dealt with anything similar to my situation or is just open to being support I would be beyond grateful to have someone to talk to.

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