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How are we finding life without our own money? I mean hubby gives money but I miss my own money from working 🙈 anyone else got 2 kids and not working but wanting to do something for that extra pocket money 😩

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I understand you, I'm in the same situation. Especially when you've always been independent

For a short while I did DoorDash and these days I just manage finances so anything I can save is all mine. My husband has accounts for the bills to autopay out of and I'm in charge of everything we have to spend so if I want to I can give us both cash and anything he doesn't spend he gives to me; I can put it towards our savings or splurge as I see fit, so I'm pretty content with the situation!

My husband and I are so low income we dont even make it paycheck to paycheck without support from my inlaws 😅 no extra pocket money over here

I have a kindergartener and an almost two and a half year old. I am actually a licensed vocational nurse, but I don't have a lot of family that can help with babysitting and both my parents passed away a couple years ago. Unfortunately, my two and a half year old has developmental delays and she goes to therapy for speech occupational and she has an early intervention therapist because they haven't been able to diagnose her yet but she might be on the autism spectrum. So for now being a stay-at-home mom is just the easiest decision as far as getting her to therapy and all of that. My husband works graveyard so that makes it hard too. I used to make good money working as a nurse and unfortunately there's not a lot of work from home stuff that you can do as an LVN as an RN you get more opportunity but I do not have the income to go back to school to become an RN and I actually don't have the motivation either. I miss making my own money so much.

I totally get how you feel about wanting to work and make your own income. I only have a daughter so its just her and I a lot. My husband gives me money too. There are times I feel bad because he is the only one doing all the work.

I'm nervous about this because I'm transitioning to be a sahm once my girl arrives in a couple months. But I already use my husband's credit card for groceries so we'll probably just merge our accounts and I'll have my own card at least. We haven't really talked about spending yet, but I don't think he'll have any issue with me spending money without asking him as long as I don't drastically change my spending habits.

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Relationship struggles and a newborn

Strap got for the long post.

I’ve been with my partner since the beginning of the year. We fell pregnant straight away, unplanned and even on contraception…. We chatted and he didn’t want another kid and managed my expectations re that.

I said I would have the baby on my own and he changed his mind saying he would be there for us. We had a very fast yet surprising secure relationship since and he is a great guy.

He has 2 other children from his marriage. His ex is nice but they have no boundaries at all, they are very matey and I’ve had to flag stuff several times as it feels like they are very much still husband and wife.

I had the baby 4 weeks ago, after many hospital stays, complications and worries. He works stupidly hard 6 days a week and had shared custody of other children.

The routine with the others is not in place and it’s late bedtimes, dinner times and early wake ups. Which makes it hard both while pregnant and now with a newborn, I seem to be on duty alone loner because if we are with the other they need his support even though they are a lot older. I’m not asking for them to be ignored or disregarded but it’s tough when it impacts my “time off” when he is out 8-8 and I’m in bed about 9.

His ex and him do “swaps” and make childcare plans but I have blown up today as I feel that I’m not considered. Having the others extra means I’m solidly having the newborn upto 10pm whilst he bedtimes the others and also then from 1.30/3am when the baby comes to bed. He needs rest but I take over when they come up…. And the others sometimes are awake 4.30-6 then go downstairs.

I’ve tried to communicate my needs and need for support. It just lands as if I begrudge his other kids and it isn’t that, I just need support and us time is never a thing now so I feel emotional to have to find more of myself for long running on nothing.

I have chronic health conditions and they make motherhood even harder. His ex is supported by her family and his family collecting the kids, having sleeps overs and doing school runs. Stupidly I feel envious because I don’t have that.

Because we are fresh, we have never spoken finances or stuff like that even when I brought it up several times. His response is “I will try and help where I can” and he buys stuff. However, I’m getting triggered that the ex sleeps soundly knowing all that’s taken care off, when her time off starts and all the clubs are paid for by him.

I feel like I’m the surrogate, the silly woman that got pregnant and so on. I feel like I watch on their ironed out agreements and maybe it appears still a team. I have no security or breathing space myself to know he has the reins…. I have a house alone, bills and everything to cover and think of.

I brought pretty much everything for our child. He has got stuff too but it’s hugely disproportionate and things compounded by the fact him and his ex have a “clothing fund” account for their kids…. Sounds stupid but I’m again envious she never has to think about laying it all out herself.

He is a great guy, doing all he can. I feel so bad for moaning and feeling lonely, like a solo parent and arguing all the time because I can’t shake the disparity.

We had a prem baby and got kept in an hour after we got out the ex and kids came over. Within no time his ex said she was overwhelmed as she had the kids extra days (his mum helped alot) and we couldn’t have them over night due to my surgery. Then there was the question of half term times, collections, clubs resuming and so on. I felt and feel invisible.

I can’t shift the constant feel like I’m alone and solo parenting. If I wasn’t in a relationship with him, he would have our child more hours and also I would get a break. I envy his ex’s time, space, her time, financial security and everything being sorted re the children.

Sorry for the rant but I’m just wondering if I’m just being a selfish person who can’t see the wood for the tree’s, a post partum emotional wreak….. or valid in my feelings.

Every-time I speak about it, I get so frustrated emotional and angry I come across horrible. I lose my points because I’m so emotionally invested and I feel my child is getting less, I feel I am bottom of the list and I just can’t shift it.

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Good morning, first post on here and looking for advice (please don't just say leave him now)

So me and my partner have just bought our first house together but previously to this I was around 25 weeks pregnant and I found on his phone that on multiple occasions he was using this site called pinkvideochat and was talking to tons of porn girls and was video chatting them obviously to do his thing, at the time we wasn't having sex because he said he was scared while I got bigger during pregnancy which is understandable.

When I confronted him it took him 2 days to actually admit he did it, from then he's not done anything wrong, we bought our house and I'm now 2 weeks away from our son being born. We then had a tiny argument last night and I went round my friends and came back after hours and he hadn't checked on me once to see where tf I was or anything and he was asleep.

I had this feeling to check his phone and turns out while I was in hospital during the day at a midwife appointment he refused to come to he was on this site again obviously doing his "thing" to these curvy emo girls like last time. Now I am blonde, skinny (well before I was pregnant (g) and it's just really hurt me as last time he did this we discussed that it was cheating and if he did it again I'd leave. But how can I leave when I give birth in 2 weeks and we've just bought a house.

Any advice is appreciated thank you