Struggling financially

i want to put out there that I know I’m not the only person going through the and I’m not the first and also not the last. My daughter is 9 weeks old and I had to put her in day care. I’m currently in between jobs. My first one was giving me 4 hours a week and weren’t giving me any shift no matter how much I asked. I start me new job next week. The hard part is the in between. Because usually you don’t get your first paycheck, you have to wait til the next pay period to get paid. The hard part is I don’t have a super high credit limit or enough money in my account to stay positive. The only plus side is I’m fortunate enough to still live with my parents. Before you ask why don’t I go ask them for money. It’s because they didn’t choose to have another kid. So they are not responsible for paying for her. I’m just scared of losing my spot at my daycare because soon I will run out of money on my credit card. Any tips on how to just squeak by for long enough to get one my feet again. The dad also isn’t in the picture enough to ask for help.

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Please don’t judge me 😢

I’ve got a two year old girl who is my world, and I’m pregnant with baby #2 who I found out recently is a boy. I feel so, so terrible and guilty writing this but I want to get it off my chest. I’ve only ever grown up around women - I have a sister, a daughter, and I’m close to my mum. My husband isn’t that close to his sister and he’s close to his mum but not like I am. I really wanted to give my daughter a sister, to have the same bond hopefully I’ve got. I guess I just look at my husbands family and I worry that he will distance himself one day 😩 I know it’s so silly to think, but because I’ve never really grown up around boys (including cousins) I feel completely out of touch with being a “boy mom”. That being said, I’m so so grateful for the gift of having another baby join our family, a little boy who I’ll raise into a great young man. I guess I’m just looking to hear from people who might’ve felt the same or , who are close to their brothers 💛

Am I not pulling my weight as a mom?

I have a 3 month (14 week) old first baby. She’s had a very rough start due to her health, so we’re still struggling to get out of contact naps and tbf just contact everything and only just at a phase where she’s not screaming in pain all day and night to the point she won’t eat or sleep enough. She’s finally gaining weight and some days she’s starting to be just like any other baby. I’m mostly adding this for extra context, and should probably also say I have MS/epilepsy (for me it means I do struggle with fatigue and chronic pain so Im probably not as energetic as most.)

Lately my husband keeps making these comments about how he only had time to game for an hour last night, or how I just get to ‘be at home all day’ and then he takes the baby in the evening. Just little things about how he’s the one who has to work and then he ‘has her a lot’. He works 8-4. I do the nights because of this, which is about 3-4 wakes, then have the baby in the day. I can’t drive but we do try and go for walks, other than that I’m at home or her appointments. At 4:15 he comes in, I make him his coffee and his dinner. He showers, on Wednesdays goes to football until around 6pm, other nights sits with me and then about 6 goes upstairs and on his computer. He has a business from home too so he does some work for that or plays games (these don’t count to him as he says they’re boring games since he can’t hold her and play games like Smite online with friends.) I make him coffees and check in, often to make bottles because if he sees me he’ll say “have you got her a bottle ready” so it’s not like I do nothing or just ignore them, and then spend the time on the housework. Every night I was and sterilise all the bottles, tidy, do the dishes and laundry etc, shower and then take the baby back around 9:30-10 depending what’s needed doing. If he asks me to take her earlier so he can game I do. He talks to his friends on discord, games and does his business stuff then comes to bed. I try and help with the business stuff but there’s not much I can do and my days are taken up with a very unsettled baby who desperately wants to be on me. Some days I don’t eat until dinner. I try so hard to protect his time to game and go to football and get his haircut on the weekends and whatever else and I thank him for working so hard for us and tell him how appreciated he is but he doesn’t seem to think I’m doing enough and says all he does is work. I just don’t know what to do. I feel like I’m failing as a mom and partner. Please be brutally honest, right now when he mentions another child I feel scared. I’m worried I’m too selfish and destroying my relationship

I need your opinion on if this is weird or what?

My husband acts like he gave birth to our child. Our child just turned one and he will act like a single dad even when I'm there holding him and struggling to make a bottle or do other things when holding our son. If any chores like food shopping or cleaning needs to be done then he would rather stay home with our son and I do it. I'm starting to feel resentful because I want to actually be a mum that gets to chill and not do everything but he is a great dad. He's just lazy when it comes to chores. What do I do ladies?

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I killed myself to come up with funds to buy my first ever home and now on top of everything else that has gone wrong they found asbestos in the popcorn ceiling. I’m genuinely feeling defeated. I don’t have child support because it entails a legal battle and I had to choose between that or getting my child and myself a home instead of living out of a single bedroom indefinitely. I don’t feel safe about my home now. Any advice?