Burned out

Let me start this off by saying, I don’t need any negativity. I’m not jumping off the deep end. I love my daughter 1000% and I wouldn’t trade her for the world. Did I choose to have her, yes. Did I understand my actions. Of course I do. So that’s not what I need nor want to hear as a response. But part of me genuinely does not want to be a parent right now. And I don’t mean pack her up and ship her off for adoption or abandoning. I mean the tasks, and the disciplining, and all the other stuff. Parenthood is fun, amazing, great..sure. But it sucks. It’s draining. It’s exhausting. And it’s chaos. And no one talks about it. Everyone talks about the bright side, and how lovely it is. But no one tells you how dark it can get. Do I sound depressed.. yeah sure. Probably. Am I? Quite possibly. But this shit is hard. And no. I didn’t just have her. She’ll be 4 in July. Are they’re great parts. Absolutely. Do I live coming home from work and hearing/seeing her excitement when I walk through the door! Of course. Do I love seeing her grow and accomplishing new tasks every day? Of course. Do I LOVE those tiny hugs and snuggles and random ‘I love you mommy’s throughout the day? Wouldn’t trade it for the world. But this shit isn’t for the weak, and there’s no preparation for it. Working. School (for me). Being the default parent. Managing all the day to day tasks for everyone. I’m burned out. And I can’t be the only one..

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I hear you girl! For me the toughest years were the ages of 2-4yrs old. My kids are now 8 and 11 and I will tell you it gets better I promise, I am enjoying motherhood more than ever now🌈

I used to feel guilty because I too had these thoughts. Like I just really needed a break and it felt like it would be this exhausting forever.

I always joke but at the same time I’m not joking when I say my post-partum depression lasted years. For me it wasn’t…
-just baby’s “first year” girrrrrrl….. I felt it all the way till they about hit 5yrs😅

I’ve never had a village it was hard. Just know you are seen and heard! And you have the right to feel the way you do. It’s challenging, but you too will eventually catch a break as they get older💕

Girrrrl when they pour there first bowl of cereal on a Saturday morning and let you sleep in without making a mess it’s a game changer🤣🙏

Woman to woman I love you! It takes bravery to share your heart & show vulnerability. You are not weak! You got this!

Yea toddler stage is crazzzyyy!!! 🤣lawwwwd help us!🙏

You are definitely not the only one. I'm burned out here too.

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I’ve been doing everything to get my body right for a baby, I have PCOS. My partner and I have been trying for a baby and nothing has been working. He smokes black and milds daily which is a big issue and I believe that is the reason why I haven’t conceived yet but it’s so fucked up because I just found out he gave me chlamydia so I believe that could’ve been the reason why I wasn’t conceiving neither 🤦‍♀️ he says he got it from an ex before me and he had no symptoms but I felt like as a man, he should’ve went to the doctor instead of spreading diseases knowing that people can’t easily be trusted smh

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When to see GP for advice?

TTC baby 2 since December and period has just arrived at 7DO.

All my cycles since we started TTC have ended at 6-9DPO and I feel like that shouldn’t be happening??

How long do I wait until I seek advice from a GP? We’re desperate for another baby and I feel like my body is failing me :(

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8dpo testing

Have caved and tested and now convinced myself this cycle didn’t work 😢😢😢 would there be atleast a tiny something by now on a test because they are very very much negative!

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Is this the start of an early faint positive

I am only 8dpo but thought I saw a super faint line this morning. I have tried using the checker app as see alot of people using it. With this I feel like I can see a line starting to appear. Last try as can’t go through a miscarriage again 💔🌈

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Burned out

Let me start this off by saying, I don’t need any negativity. I’m not jumping off the deep end. I love my daughter 1000% and I wouldn’t trade her for the world. Did I choose to have her, yes. Did I understand my actions. Of course I do. So that’s not what I need nor want to hear as a response. But part of me genuinely does not want to be a parent right now. And I don’t mean pack her up and ship her off for adoption or abandoning. I mean the tasks, and the disciplining, and all the other stuff. Parenthood is fun, amazing, great..sure. But it sucks. It’s draining. It’s exhausting. And it’s chaos. And no one talks about it. Everyone talks about the bright side, and how lovely it is. But no one tells you how dark it can get. Do I sound depressed.. yeah sure. Probably. Am I? Quite possibly. But this shit is hard. And no. I didn’t just have her. She’ll be 4 in July. Are they’re great parts. Absolutely. Do I live coming home from work and hearing/seeing her excitement when I walk through the door! Of course. Do I love seeing her grow and accomplishing new tasks every day? Of course. Do I LOVE those tiny hugs and snuggles and random ‘I love you mommy’s throughout the day? Wouldn’t trade it for the world. But this shit isn’t for the weak, and there’s no preparation for it. Working. School (for me). Being the default parent. Managing all the day to day tasks for everyone. I’m burned out. And I can’t be the only one..

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9DPO - What to we think?

Having consistent cramps, boob twinges, and just a general off feeling.

I'm soooo sure I see a vvvf line 🧐 Been TTC for nearly 2 years, diagnosed PCOS, and literally started Metformin last month.. is this our Rainbow Baby? 🌈🥹

What's the verdict?
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