Am I in the wrong?

I’ve got a 8 week old baby and my partner works full time in a job that is 7 days a week! He is home for breakfast, lunch and dinner and in from 6pm! I’m getting frustrated I feel like I do everything by myself and he has to be told what to do, he doesn’t come and take our baby out of my arms without having to be told or asking if that’s what I need. I currently don’t have the brain capacity to be teaching him how to do all of this when I learnt it all by myself. I tried to have some me time and go for a bath last night while he put the baby to bed (which I do everything night while he sits on the sofa) despite being shown the bedtime routine before he told me “I’ll sit and hold him and you can put him to bed once you’re out the bath”! Needless to say I didn’t bother with the bath because I just feel I’m always neeeded! He gets mad/upset when I try and express that I’m upset so I feel I can’t even speak to him!
Am I in the wrong for wanting more?

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Losing my mind

Now I love my partner I really do but my god he is doing my head in! So recently he has this thing where he keeps accidentally taking things I need to work with him, so far 3 times he’s taken my car keys with him so he’s had to come all the way back to drop them off so he ends up late for work (20 minute drive each way) but today he took my phone to work with him, after he left I was trying to find it as he messages me when he gets to work so I know he gets there all good but I couldn’t find it anywhere and I don’t have a spare working phone or a landline to be able to call it or contact someone to call it for me to find it, about 40 minutes after he left he turns up with it! But he’s just so unorganised when getting sorted for work and his things are just everywhere! I’m just ranting really but has anyone else had this with their partners?

Should I say something to this so called “friend”?

So I met this mom on here and it’s been about a year and a half. I’m 32, she’s 37 so little age difference plus, she’s in the middle of divorce and I’m a single mom… little backstory. Her kids are a year or two younger than mine but we all hang out and we all have fun. It’s been a while since we hung out, so last weekend we planned I will go pick her up because she doesn’t have her car right now due to an accident, and we would just go to the park with the kids. The morning of we text good morning, she’s having a good morning, I’m having a good morning and then our plans were set for 4pm so around the 12pm I texted her for her address to navigate my stops to get the snacks, her and get to the park. She responded 45 minutes later saying “ please don’t kill me, but I’m in a good cleaning groove so let’s reschedule.” I never responded. I was actually annoyed because you’re telling me that when I’ve been planning my whole day around our day…. And over cleaning? So now it’s been a week I haven’t heard from her. Should I just delete her? Should I say something? It is not fair for her to have access to me when she wants it and wants to vent but when it’s time to execute plans, she never participates and I don’t think that’s a good friend. When it’s time for her to vent, she will send me a book to read in our text messages and I read it all and I listen and I gave her the time but nothing is ever reciprocated..

Do you feel you need a break from your kids?

Life is stressful but my kids I absolutely love spending every minute with. It’s everything else I need a break from (mostly my ex).

Obviously they are only 1&2 I’m sure by the time they are teens and back chatting I will be grateful for a break 😅.

My ex and his family always seem to make the comments. Example I felt pressured to put my 2 year old in nursery so she started last week for 2 mornings and although I know it will do her so much good and she has loved it. However it’s not a break for me. My ex’s mum made a comment yesterday when she came to see them oh I bet it’s been nice just having the one. Well no because now I’m running around early 2 mornings then usually disturbing my youngest for her naps because we have to go get my eldest so really it’s a bit more stress for me 😅. However because she has had the best time it is worth it.

Then when she was leaving they always follow whoever saying bye and she kept going oh look they want to escape the prison and come with nanny. I know she says it joking but I honestly think she thinks we literally sit at home all day every day when we go somewhere pretty much every day. I also know my ex thinks the same (he’s only allowed supervised visits and has never had them on his own) but he said yesterday I don’t want them missing out. I quite often have to bite my tongue as he honestly had no idea what we do every day and they will never miss out on anything trust me. Just because he would rather put his money into other things than his kids that isn’t me.

Ok now I’ve just gone on to a bit of a rant but anyways, do you feel like you need time away from your kids?

Homeschooling thoughts?

Does anyone home school their children? I have two children who both are autistic. My eldest (12) hasn’t been in school since October last year, currently going thru an EHCP appeal but I feel it’ll be a struggle to get him back into education now this him being so long out of it. My second (9) also has an eating disorder and tic disorder she’s dysregulated every morning before school and works herself up so much she’s physically sick, currently on reduced timetable due to the school holidays and getting back into it but school are increasing time quite quickly and she’s struggling again. Is homeschooling really a good idea? School for my eldest has told me about it as an option to look into but I’m not sure? I also have a 2 year old and a baby due September this year x

Is it just me or are kids' places immorally priced?

$20 for my 2 year old to play in some sand for ONE HOUR?! Are you out of your mind?! It's even worse if I have 3 kids! Am I missing something? How do these people sleep at night?! I'm sure it's the same situation where it just takes a few bad apples to ruin it for everybody. They have to price it with the worst kids in mind (most destructive/messy). And doesn't it seem ethical to give military discounts across-the-board? Let's take it easy on the moms/dads with spouses overseas! I'm sorry to post this, I just have nobody to talk to/share my gripes with.

Hard decision

I’m torn! I got a job offer for a really good position that is part time , term time only and flexible, even though I’m taking a pay cut but I’m willing to move from a highly stressed environment to the new role. The only thing is they do not allow Fridays off. My little one currently goes to nursery Mondays to thursdays. Nursery has checked they can only offer a swap to Wednesdays. So my little one has to split the week in half (with Wednesday off)- would she be okay with this adjustment? I’m worry this will interrupt her routine and hesitating in accepting the job offer.