Is it time to break up?
I've been with my partner for just under 2 years and we have a 10 month old baby. We're both military and he's been away for 3 months but been back home a week. The time he was away I didn't miss him, didn't really think about him and I just enjoyed life with our baby.
Since he's been back I've just felt unable to rebuild that connection with him. He's pretty lazy and won't do anything I ask, I'm working and he's on annual leave for a few months. I'll ask him to do simple tasks whilst I'm at work like turning the washing machine on, I'll fill it before work so all he has to do is press start and he 'forgets'.
He is good with our baby, he does every bedtime, stays up with him if I have work the next day etc but I don't feel a connection with him
Without sounding harsh it's like he lacks common sense. He asks where the baby bottles are although they've been in the same place for 6 months, we have a tommee tippee travel blind and he put it up wrong as in he put the blind over the net curtain and ripped the net curtain down
I can say something to him and he just doesn't listen
Our baby has been unwell this week so they haven't been at nursery and he's been looking after him. I come home and there's meds everywhere and he's just sat on his computer or watching TV whilst the baby plays on their own
I honestly think I'm just mentally done with parenting him and our baby
Any thoughts or suggestions?
I hate my baby daddy
Was a little late to cleaning today because I’m 4-5 fucking weeks pregnant and I decided to take a shower. Somthing thats literally impossible with a toddler. I managed to get a little done but it wasn’t perfect. Sure. I decide to take my 2 year old for a walk and we notice her dad is home. At first I was going to let her walk and take her to the park but she missed her dad today so I decided to let her see him. Her dad gestures to the top of her head that has a bandaid (she likes to play with them, she’s 2). He’s visibly annoyed and he shuts his car off. He tells me to go back to the apartment (no hello or anything while my daughter is really happy to see him) and I say I was taking her to the park. Usually my daughter likes to walk around and play and it gets her energy out and helps her to sleep. He wants her to immediately go to the park and doesn’t let her explore even a little bit. When we get there, she’s barely there 10 minutes before hes telling us to go home. He tells me not to play a game with her (i tickle her back while singing the itsy bitsy spider) and he yells at our daughter to climb the stairs to our apartment. She starts crying and is upset, so I put her to sleep. He then starts cleaning and is making a lot of noise. Obviously he’s irritated. He comes into the room and says he’s throwing away everything he sees, and he throws away some of my things and a lot of my daughters toys. I’m in the middle of putting my daughter to sleep, but he tells me “if I want anything I better get it from him before he throws it away”. Mind you, my child is on top of me taking her first nap of the day. I’m so upset, I’m trying not to cry too loud but I’m so sick of this shit. Literally from the minute he saw me and my daughter he was annoyed. I know I’m not doing my best but this pregnancy on top of having a toddler is draining. I hate this. I dont know why I wanted a second kid with him
Feeling so down
I’m a single mom, my son is 1.5 yo. I left BD when I was like 3 months pregnant so I pretty much been on my own with this over 2 years now. No family, friends faded away one by one.no partner. Just me. Isolation is killer.
I have been ugly crying for weeks, so angry I can’t control it and I yell at my son for the smallest things then I feel like crap.
Last night sent me in a downhill spiral. A social media influencer just had her 2nd baby, and had an at home wedding. It was so sweet, I hate being jealous truly but after seeing that I can’t keep it together, because I will never have that. She’s so pretty, she has a nice house, family, friends, 2 ,children with a good man. Ya I’m sure it’s not as perfect as it looks and they have issues too. But they have all that . Ya. I guess I am jealous. I don’t have a scale that tips, I have my son of course the only thing I’m thankful for in life but now I have to watch him live the lonely life I lived, and that’s my own personal torture and guilt.
Idk. I just can’t go on anymore, sometimes I feel he is better off without me. I fight so hard to keep the little we have, down to our tiny as apt. By the time I’m finished with work and school I no longer have strangers to be there for him….
Any motivation? Is there really a light at this end of this tunnel. I am so fat and ugky I’m so repulsed by myself, I don’t even want a man anywhere near me out of shame.
Is it time to be a single mom?
Ok so recently me and my child’s father got back in contact after he said he broke his phone, not important right now.
However, I work night shift at a children’s hospital, full time at that and when I get home or even a day off, I’m sleeping that whole day.
So yesterday I wasn’t able to text him because I was sleep most of the day and when I did go out to the store and back home, I fell right back to sleep.
In his eyes, I’m doing something I’m not supposed to and he’s practically threatening to show up to my moms house and cause trouble because I can’t give him attention when he wants it and that is almost all the time.
I’m scared to even tell him how I feel because I don’t want to stress myself out to the point where I lose my baby and then lose my mind as well.
What do I do?
