Is it time to break up?

I've been with my partner for just under 2 years and we have a 10 month old baby. We're both military and he's been away for 3 months but been back home a week. The time he was away I didn't miss him, didn't really think about him and I just enjoyed life with our baby.

Since he's been back I've just felt unable to rebuild that connection with him. He's pretty lazy and won't do anything I ask, I'm working and he's on annual leave for a few months. I'll ask him to do simple tasks whilst I'm at work like turning the washing machine on, I'll fill it before work so all he has to do is press start and he 'forgets'.

He is good with our baby, he does every bedtime, stays up with him if I have work the next day etc but I don't feel a connection with him

Without sounding harsh it's like he lacks common sense. He asks where the baby bottles are although they've been in the same place for 6 months, we have a tommee tippee travel blind and he put it up wrong as in he put the blind over the net curtain and ripped the net curtain down

I can say something to him and he just doesn't listen

Our baby has been unwell this week so they haven't been at nursery and he's been looking after him. I come home and there's meds everywhere and he's just sat on his computer or watching TV whilst the baby plays on their own

I honestly think I'm just mentally done with parenting him and our baby

Any thoughts or suggestions?

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As unfortunate as the situation is part of me feels if you felt the need to ask online strangers their thoughts then you have also subconsciously made up your mind….i understand the frustration behind his actions (or lack there off shall i say) and i bet it feels so defeating! Is this your first baby? Sometimes these things happen especially since your lives have both changed so drastically with welcoming your little one into the world and during these times energy shifts , patterns change , hormones are haywire along with your focus being on your little one as opposed to eachother like id presume it was in the past and its easy to forget the reasons you first fell in love and decided to start a family in the first place. Its a big life changing decision to leave your partner and i feel you should communicate with them how your feeling and give them the opportunity to do the same and moving foward work together to try and regain the spark you previously had … pt.2 ——->

On the other hand….. if youve already tried communicating over and over again how your feeling and how your feeling because of their actions and lack of common sense then maybe it is that youve reached paths that no longer align. But please dont make a permanent decision over a temporary problem and give eachother time! Communication is key always and sometimes you need to tell somebody straight up in black and white before it sinks in and things change it may seem harsh but sometimes its the kick up the arse the relationship needs to get back on track! I hope it works out in the best way for you guys regardless of the outcome and i wish you and your little one health and happiness throughout what ever is to come of this situation and lastly dont let it ponder , the longer you leave yourself to feel this way the colder youll feel towards your partner and the harder itll be to work things out if thats what you desire , best of luck🥰🥰xxxx

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