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First time mums

Child caregiver concerns

I don’t know if I’m being paranoid, but I have concerns about my nanny, who works for us 20 hours a week, and I’m not sure if I should ask her to stop.

1. She sometimes ignores my instructions regarding feeding (e.g., not burping the baby twice during feeds, even though the doctor advised this for his reflux), not doing leg exercises as requested and she does when baby is straining.
2. She ignored me twice when I said I wanted to bathe the baby (she only does it once a week).
3. Before we hired her, she said she enjoys cooking, but now she seems reluctant every time she has to cook for us.
4. She wants to take days off whenever she chooses and get paid more than half in cash and the rest with invoice.
5. She often asks to come with me wherever I go, even though I decline.
6. She arrives late after dropping off her child, although she says she will make up the time later and does stay longer on Fridays.
7. She avoids doing certain household tasks (e.g., she has never taken out the nappy bin or clean the nursery)
8. She mentioned she used to attend social events with children of other families and has suggested that now the weather is warmer, we could go to the park with the baby.
9. She has become too personal- she comments on my some of my clothes and accessories, and since I’ve travelled a lot, I sometimes feel she may be envious.

I don’t want her to attend mum-and-baby events with me, as I don’t need her in that context. I need someone to help me care for the baby, not a companion or entertainer.

I don’t trust her anymore. Has anyone else been in a similar situation?