Wanting divorce

Has anyone gone thru a divorce where you’re really close with your husbands family? We’ve been together 10 yrs and I’m close friends with his cousins and most of his fam. I don’t want to get into it, but we’re not going to end on the best of terms. Regardless that we’re both at fault, I know they will take his side completely. I’m just already emotional at the fact I’ll be losing so many people.

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First off we need more detail and second you’re already considered family to them and if yall split up and they disregard you take it as a sign they weren’t meant for you no way and watch what happens next in your life love 💗 if they are meant to be in your life then it will happen if not take it as a sign they werent for u, including ur husband if he can’t man up and figure out a solution then girl he ain’t yo man that’s just that and move on watch how god blesses you

And I’m sorry you will be losing people you care about but you never know what you will gain from it ✨💕

It’s sad that you’ve been a part of this family for over a decade, I’m assuming kids are involved too so that’s their grandchildren/nieces and nephews to consider too, it would be very short sighted and ridiculous if they decided to cut you off just because your relationship brokedown.

Why do grown adults need to take ‘sides’ in another adult’s relationship status? I mean surely your ex would want to remain civil and respectful to you given you are the mother of his children, why would that same courtesy not be extended to his family too? Doesn’t matter if one of you cheated, whatever the reason for your split shouldn’t be the deciding factor in whether they remain in contact with you or not. If they don’t, oh well, their loss.

I was with my ex 10 years and he had an affair with my close friend and left me for her and none of his family spoke to me again

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