Child care
When did everyone go back to work and what age did you send your little one to nursery and for how many days to begin with?
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Just over 12 months old for 5 days a week. Dad drops off 8:30-8:45am and I pick up 3pm. Now we leave him a little longer (26m old) because he LOVES it there.
Im back to work in January, my little one will be 11 months. We decided to go with a childminder for 1 day and the other days are a mix of Grandparents, my wife and I. Im going back part time xx
Planning to go back when my baby will be around 9/10 months. The plan is to do 5 days a week but only for the afternoons.
I go back in Jan from leave and all the grandparents are rotating with watching my daughter
My first started a week before his first birthday 3 full days a week. Will do the same with my second x
14 months and 3 days per week, likely upping this to 4 days when he’s over 2 x
My plan is to go back at 10 months old as I’m a teacher so I can start back in September at the start of the teaching year, I’ll be stepping down from full time to 3 days a week
At 5 months they went three times a week
I went back at 9 months 3 days a week and 5 days by the time she was 11 months! Now she’s 18 months and I work 2 jobs- it be rough out here
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Im disgusted, it was around 4 am my partner was touching me up around the hips and butt,I was half asleep could feel what he was doing i said no, whilst being jalf asleep clearly he didnt hear or chose not to and carried on i pushed his hands away he carried on,I looked at the time 4am,I said no i have work later today and im literally half asleep he then got the message,i literally dont want to go down stairs and face him what he did was not respect my answers at all he carried on i said no like three times and he carried on.
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Lost our spark
I’ve been with my husband just over 4 years and we had our 1st wedding anniversary earlier this year. We also have a 1 year old. Our relationship over the last year has been really rocky. We’ve had horrendous arguments when we’ve never argued before, things have been said and there’s been many a time I’ve thought that we were done. While we have been slightly better over the last so many months, when we argue we argue. I feel like we have completely lost our spark. We don’t ever really cuddle as I don’t now like it as much as I used too, hardly say I love you and don’t ever really laugh and joke about when we used to be like best friends. The thing is I don’t see any of this changing especially as our 2nd is due next year. Obviously I love him but I don’t feel the way I did towards him in our early days. We have limited childcare so don’t ever get time just us and the 2 opportunities we did have the nursery sent our son home early so we had to cancel plans. I don’t know if we’ve just naturally drifted apart from each other or if this is just because of having children
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Weird?
So my partner has acted weird the last 2 days. Yesterday he was meant to tell me if I needed to collect our son from school. He never got in touch so I rang him and it was weird. He didn't acknowledge he could have rung, explain why he didn't, act like he forgot or apologise. I said I would see him when he got home and he responded "you too". He immediately texted that he loved me and I told him the call was weird and he apologised and said there where people in the room. I rang at 2:15 and he finishes at 2. I knew he may have to stay back.
Today he got home a tad late and brought snacks which I had asked him too and then we had a few minutes of conversation and then he was in the bedroom whike I did house work. He then had a shower and went back to the bedroom. He has been home since just after 3 and is now asleep. He isn't talkative and I can tell something is off. He said work was busy and we had a bad night last night sleep wise but he has been chronically exhausted for a long time and functions on little sleep. He has a routine when he gets home that includes spending most of the night at his hobby desk with his tablet and gaming console. He has never acted like this. I mean yeah he has had a shower first or napped but 3.5 hours in the bedroom/shower and not his desk, nope.
I asked if he was ok and he said he eas just tired. I said he seems off and he didn't really acknowledge me.
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Baby rice
My baby is just over 12 weeks now , I feed him and he is still hungry , we are currently going through with the doctors about severe reflux. Has anyone given there baby , baby rice earlier than 4 months ?
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36 weeks and freaking out.
My husband left me for another woman 10 years younger than me two months ago. We have three little ones together, ages 9, 6, and 2, and I’m currently pregnant with our fourth child.
When he first left, he wanted us to continue living in the marital home and coparent. His idea was to turn the nursery into his room, even though he said he would barely be home. I couldn’t imagine living under the same roof with someone who had chosen to leave our marriage, watching him get ready to go out was killing me, so I decided to get my own place and start over.
For a while, I thought I was doing okay. I was managing the kids, the house, and the reality of everything that had happened. But about three days ago, I started experiencing sharp pains and back pain, and suddenly, it all hit me. I’m about to have a newborn and three other little children to care for, and I’m going to be doing it all on my own.
Since then, my husband has practically disappeared. He barely calls the kids and has only seen them twice. They ask me all the time where their dad is, and I find myself making excuses to protect their little hearts. I tell them he’s working or try to give them an answer that won’t hurt them, even though I’m struggling to understand his absence myself.
I’m overstimulated, exhausted, and already sleep-deprived because my two-year-old is going through a sleep regression. I’m trying to hold everything together, but honestly, I’m terrified of what life will look like when the baby gets here. The thought of waking up every three hours to feed a newborn while taking care of three other children, without a consistent partner to lean on, feels overwhelming.
I think what hurts the most is that after almost a decade together, I never imagined he could just disappear like this. I never thought I would be preparing to welcome our baby into the world while simultaneously trying to explain to our children why their father is barely around.
I didn’t just lose my husband. I lost the future I thought we were building together, the family dynamic I believed our children would grow up with, and the person I thought I could count on when life got hard.
I’m trying to be strong for my babies because they still need me, regardless of how broken or overwhelmed I feel inside. But the truth is, I’m scared. I’m tired. And some days, I don’t know how I’m going to do it all.
After almost ten years with someone, you never imagine having to face something like this. I guess you really never know someone as well as you think you do. 💔
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Child care
When did everyone go back to work and what age did you send your little one to nursery and for how many days to begin with?
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