I’m not okay!!!

A month ago my man had a stroke. I am overwhelmed and fed up by taking care of him and the 2 kids all on my own. He won’t let me have family over so I can have help. I don’t know if I can handle this. Am I a bad person?

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Snack ideas?

Can anyone give me any snack ideas that is not fruit? 🫣 my baby needs to start having a couple of snacks a day now but she already has fruit with her meals, so I wanted to avoid it for snacks - I know it’s natural sugars but still, feels like a lot of sugar in one day

Boundaries

I recently gave birth via an emergency C-section after being induced, and I honestly haven’t been able to stop replaying the whole experience in my head. Baby is okay thankfully, but it was a lot.

I was discharged, came home, and within an hour my MIL showed up unannounced with her mum and sister. I hadn’t even had a chance to shower, baby hadn’t settled, and they were passing her around without even washing their hands. No one really checked on me either. I’d literally just had surgery and come home from hospital. While I went to the loo, they were also taking pictures of my baby and circulating them among themselves, which really didn’t sit right with me.

Then a few days later (baby was only 6 days old), my husband’s whole family showed up unannounced again while baby was under phototherapy and I was breastfeeding. It felt like such an invasion of privacy. Baby was being passed around, everyone giving advice I didn’t ask for, and again barely anyone asking how I’m actually doing. My mil’s sister from the previous visit walks in and starts mingling with the other unannounced guests and finally looks at my me and says “oh I didn’t even see you”.

And now that same sister has messaged asking to come over with HER sister-in-law… who I don’t even know.

I completely understand everyone is excited, but I feel really overwhelmed, exposed, and honestly a bit disregarded. I’m trying to recover, establish breastfeeding, and just bond with my baby, and it feels like I haven’t had a moment to breathe.

I’m now trying to set boundaries like no unannounced visits and keeping it to immediate family for now, but it’s hard and I feel guilty even though I know I shouldn’t.

I feel like I’m slowly losing it with them and just needed a place to vent.

Need help!

Hi mums! I’m looking for a bit of support or ideas.

I have a 19-month-old and work mornings (7–3), while my husband works night shifts. We’re struggling with mornings as he can’t get proper sleep, and we can’t afford a nanny.

Is anyone interested in a childcare swap, or can recommend affordable options (childminder, part-time nursery, etc.)?

Based in Wembley. Thank you so much 🙏

Wanting divorce

Has anyone gone thru a divorce where you’re really close with your husbands family? We’ve been together 10 yrs and I’m close friends with his cousins and most of his fam. I don’t want to get into it, but we’re not going to end on the best of terms. Regardless that we’re both at fault, I know they will take his side completely. I’m just already emotional at the fact I’ll be losing so many people.

Struggling financially

i want to put out there that I know I’m not the only person going through the and I’m not the first and also not the last. My daughter is 9 weeks old and I had to put her in day care. I’m currently in between jobs. My first one was giving me 4 hours a week and weren’t giving me any shift no matter how much I asked. I start me new job next week. The hard part is the in between. Because usually you don’t get your first paycheck, you have to wait til the next pay period to get paid. The hard part is I don’t have a super high credit limit or enough money in my account to stay positive. The only plus side is I’m fortunate enough to still live with my parents. Before you ask why don’t I go ask them for money. It’s because they didn’t choose to have another kid. So they are not responsible for paying for her. I’m just scared of losing my spot at my daycare because soon I will run out of money on my credit card. Any tips on how to just squeak by for long enough to get one my feet again. The dad also isn’t in the picture enough to ask for help.

Food or meals

My bf don’t like that I chose simple healthy meals for my son to eat when he can’t cook till dinner and so I usely opt to cook eggs or oat meal for the baby or give him Caral and he is expecting verity when most the verity in the apt is lunch foods and dinner and has far as lunch goes it kind of stitches up on who does it depending on who is available to do it but there is sitting that I noticed with my son in the first place he won’t eat when he first gets up and declined is if I put like more then two foods in frount of him most the food goes to waste and I am just so over it because I don’t think there is anything wrong with what I feed my son during the day and eggs are healthy we get them from the store every now and again and sometimes it’s Ramon noodles or Mac and cheses I give him pulse another thing is that the baby won’t wait 30mins to eat if he hungery events things can give him in 10 to 15mins I am just at my breaking point of getting him to understand that cooking simple is not wrong