I hate my baby daddy

Was a little late to cleaning today because I’m 4-5 fucking weeks pregnant and I decided to take a shower. Somthing thats literally impossible with a toddler. I managed to get a little done but it wasn’t perfect. Sure. I decide to take my 2 year old for a walk and we notice her dad is home. At first I was going to let her walk and take her to the park but she missed her dad today so I decided to let her see him. Her dad gestures to the top of her head that has a bandaid (she likes to play with them, she’s 2). He’s visibly annoyed and he shuts his car off. He tells me to go back to the apartment (no hello or anything while my daughter is really happy to see him) and I say I was taking her to the park. Usually my daughter likes to walk around and play and it gets her energy out and helps her to sleep. He wants her to immediately go to the park and doesn’t let her explore even a little bit. When we get there, she’s barely there 10 minutes before hes telling us to go home. He tells me not to play a game with her (i tickle her back while singing the itsy bitsy spider) and he yells at our daughter to climb the stairs to our apartment. She starts crying and is upset, so I put her to sleep. He then starts cleaning and is making a lot of noise. Obviously he’s irritated. He comes into the room and says he’s throwing away everything he sees, and he throws away some of my things and a lot of my daughters toys. I’m in the middle of putting my daughter to sleep, but he tells me “if I want anything I better get it from him before he throws it away”. Mind you, my child is on top of me taking her first nap of the day. I’m so upset, I’m trying not to cry too loud but I’m so sick of this shit. Literally from the minute he saw me and my daughter he was annoyed. I know I’m not doing my best but this pregnancy on top of having a toddler is draining. I hate this. I dont know why I wanted a second kid with him

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Snack ideas?

Can anyone give me any snack ideas that is not fruit? 🫣 my baby needs to start having a couple of snacks a day now but she already has fruit with her meals, so I wanted to avoid it for snacks - I know it’s natural sugars but still, feels like a lot of sugar in one day

Desperate help

Hi girls, I’m in DESPERATE NEED FOR HELP.

My boy is 3 in July and god I’ve never known him to be so naughty.

I get terrible 2’s but i thought he already went through all of that.

Not listening.
Hitting/ kicking me.
Throwing things at me.
Charging at me.

He’s now decided to wake up multiple times in the middle of the night absolutely screaming like somethings happened.

I’ve tried so many things but nothing seems to be working, he’s just getting worse each day but with other people,
‘he’s been good as gold’

Is it just me that’s the problem??

Child caregiver concerns

I don’t know if I’m being paranoid, but I have concerns about my nanny, who works for us 20 hours a week, and I’m not sure if I should ask her to stop.

1. She sometimes ignores my instructions regarding feeding (e.g., not burping the baby twice during feeds, even though the doctor advised this for his reflux), not doing leg exercises as requested and she does when baby is straining.
2. She ignored me twice when I said I wanted to bathe the baby (she only does it once a week).
3. Before we hired her, she said she enjoys cooking, but now she seems reluctant every time she has to cook for us.
4. She wants to take days off whenever she chooses and get paid more than half in cash and the rest with invoice.
5. She often asks to come with me wherever I go, even though I decline.
6. She arrives late after dropping off her child, although she says she will make up the time later and does stay longer on Fridays.
7. She avoids doing certain household tasks (e.g., she has never taken out the nappy bin or clean the nursery)
8. She mentioned she used to attend social events with children of other families and has suggested that now the weather is warmer, we could go to the park with the baby.
9. She has become too personal- she comments on my some of my clothes and accessories, and since I’ve travelled a lot, I sometimes feel she may be envious.

I don’t want her to attend mum-and-baby events with me, as I don’t need her in that context. I need someone to help me care for the baby, not a companion or entertainer.

I don’t trust her anymore. Has anyone else been in a similar situation?

Boundaries

I recently gave birth via an emergency C-section after being induced, and I honestly haven’t been able to stop replaying the whole experience in my head. Baby is okay thankfully, but it was a lot.

I was discharged, came home, and within an hour my MIL showed up unannounced with her mum and sister. I hadn’t even had a chance to shower, baby hadn’t settled, and they were passing her around without even washing their hands. No one really checked on me either. I’d literally just had surgery and come home from hospital. While I went to the loo, they were also taking pictures of my baby and circulating them among themselves, which really didn’t sit right with me.

Then a few days later (baby was only 6 days old), my husband’s whole family showed up unannounced again while baby was under phototherapy and I was breastfeeding. It felt like such an invasion of privacy. Baby was being passed around, everyone giving advice I didn’t ask for, and again barely anyone asking how I’m actually doing. My mil’s sister from the previous visit walks in and starts mingling with the other unannounced guests and finally looks at my me and says “oh I didn’t even see you”.

And now that same sister has messaged asking to come over with HER sister-in-law… who I don’t even know.

I completely understand everyone is excited, but I feel really overwhelmed, exposed, and honestly a bit disregarded. I’m trying to recover, establish breastfeeding, and just bond with my baby, and it feels like I haven’t had a moment to breathe.

I’m now trying to set boundaries like no unannounced visits and keeping it to immediate family for now, but it’s hard and I feel guilty even though I know I shouldn’t.

I feel like I’m slowly losing it with them and just needed a place to vent.

Need help!

Hi mums! I’m looking for a bit of support or ideas.

I have a 19-month-old and work mornings (7–3), while my husband works night shifts. We’re struggling with mornings as he can’t get proper sleep, and we can’t afford a nanny.

Is anyone interested in a childcare swap, or can recommend affordable options (childminder, part-time nursery, etc.)?

Based in Wembley. Thank you so much 🙏

Food or meals

My bf don’t like that I chose simple healthy meals for my son to eat when he can’t cook till dinner and so I usely opt to cook eggs or oat meal for the baby or give him Caral and he is expecting verity when most the verity in the apt is lunch foods and dinner and has far as lunch goes it kind of stitches up on who does it depending on who is available to do it but there is sitting that I noticed with my son in the first place he won’t eat when he first gets up and declined is if I put like more then two foods in frount of him most the food goes to waste and I am just so over it because I don’t think there is anything wrong with what I feed my son during the day and eggs are healthy we get them from the store every now and again and sometimes it’s Ramon noodles or Mac and cheses I give him pulse another thing is that the baby won’t wait 30mins to eat if he hungery events things can give him in 10 to 15mins I am just at my breaking point of getting him to understand that cooking simple is not wrong