Refusing solids

My baby is almost 9 months and is still refusing solids
He does occasionally pick at a few things I give him like chicken, bits of rice, tuna and fruits, but he’s never ate a “full meal”
He refuses to even try any purées and just turns his head away. I’m getting very concerned now.
Does anyone have any tips ?

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Am I a horrible wife ?

When we first met my husband was a stocky well built man which I love, but has gained weight over the years and looks so different. I have gained and lost weight due to pregnancies and he never has once commented on it and would always say he loves me regardless of size etc but I knew for myself and health that I would be losing the baby weight again. I like to stay active but he is too tired after work to go for a walk or swim which I get. I cook healthy meals. Do I just accept it’s the way he is now? I

Am I wrong to feel weirded out by this? A mom that I know rented her small childs bedroom to someone and then made them share the room.

So, I know another lady around my age. Let's call her "F". We were sort of friends for a short time. But she did a lot of things that I did not agree with. She was a massive gold digger. She lived with her boyfriend rent free (he is NOT the father of her kids.) And she rented one of the rooms out to her lady friend. I did not realize that that tenant of hers had the same room as "F"s daughter who is 6 years old. When I found out about it I was really weirded out by it. I think its wrong to make your child share a room with an adult. I also feel bad for the tenant. If I was renting a room I would NOT want to share it with my friends child! She also scammed her tenant when she found out that the "rent" that she paid "F" did not go towards the house. "F" just kept the money for herself even though she does not pay rent or utilities or anything. "F"s boyfriend was the one who paid for everything and who's name is on everything. So, that rent money should have gone to HIM. Not to "F". The tenant moved out after she found out that "F" lied to her about where the money was going. The boyfriend was also upset about the money. Apparently "F" gave him some of the money from her tenant in the beginning when her tenant first moved in but then stopped.

Am I wrong to be mad ?

I currently work 1 and a half days a week. And my husband works 5-6 days a week. We barely make ends meet. But we do it somehow. We have 2 kids 10 months apart. And I feel like I’m drowning most of the time. On top of having 2 kids 10 months apart we also have 13 pets. Yes. 13. Now onto my issue. The housework gets away from me during the day because my kids constantly need me for one thing or another. So the only time I can get housework done is when my husband comes home. He’s blue collar and cuts trees. He’s gone at 5 am and home 4/5 pm everyday. Saturday is overtime and my one full day at work as a cosmetologist. My family watches the kids Saturdays on a rotating schedule to help out.

I’ll finally have the house in perfect order where I don’t feel like I’m drowning. And then I make the same speech over and over. I’m not your mother or your maid pick up your shit.

Well as usual that never lasts and every few months I have to have someone watch my kids so I can deep clean the house but it’s always a problem and process. He either has to be in the same room as me to “make it go faster” or do only outside work because “he’s not good with inside work “ well it’s that time again. And I always hate it because it’s time away from my kids. I feel guilty for my family always doing me the favor of watching them and then I do most of the work and get mad. Now this has been planned my mom will take my older one and my younger one will be home and I’m cleaning.

Now to why I’m mad. I’ve been asking and begging for help and to come home and just let me do my thing. I have my night routine after dinner and now he wants to help fine.

But now that someone is coming to watch the kids he wants to also on that same day have a BQ with his friends. Normally that doesn’t bother me were the first of our friend group to have a house and kids. Everyone else still lives at home. But I told him countless times if the house isn’t clean we can’t have the bbq I can’t do it all.

Well now the text went out without helping me around the house. It’s a bomb. Both kids are screaming. And I literally just wanna clean. I’m not asking for him to watch them alone or anything. I literally just want a clean house. It’s for my mental health. And I feel like a shit mom when the house gets like this because it limits where my kids can roam to.

Am I just being sensitive ?

Nursery Inspiration

Our daughter will be in the box room- need inspiration what to do, decorate, add. It’s our first girl after 2 boys!

Furniture can all be moved 🎀

Thinking about separation from husband.

Hi, so my son has just turned 1. He’s our only child. I’m really starting to think about separating from my husband. For context I had a really bad pregnancy with lots of complications, I’m suffering and in therapy for birth trauma as we speak.

I’m absolutely loving being a mum and despite the trauma and bad pregnancy I am the happiest and fulfilled I’ve ever been.

However my husband gives me no support. I hate to use the word but he is lazy. This isn’t about the mental load fully it’s just general help. He will watch me struggle and sigh and huff when I ask for help. Everytime I ask for some help/ something to be done I’m accused of micro managing him. I’ve tried to explain post partum issues ie hair loss (which got me down for a long time) and he just said “it’ll grow back”

He is the most amazing dad he is so fun and “hands on” but as a husband I’m
Not sure I can do this anymore. The days where it’s just me and my son it feels so much easier. I feel like I have 2 children sometimes with my husband and he just doesn’t understand.

I’ve spoken to my mum and his mum who I am very close with and she says that’s just him. He’s always been relaxed and a bit lazy. But now we have a child I’m carrying everything. Every day he forgets to brush our child’s teeth. It’s not a massive thing but every day I say please remember to brush his teeth and sometimes honestly it feels like he forgets on purpose 😭

I’ve tried to talk honestly and he just turns it to me being a bitch and not understand post partum. Ive sent him NHS articles about birth trauma etc and he just doesn’t take anything on board.

I’ve suggested trying therapy together but he doesn’t think we need it. He says I have high standards he can’t meet. Which isn’t true. I’m so relaxed and long as our toilets are clean I’m so easy going with housework. He just doesn’t support ME.

Just looking for a bit of advice because it’s bringing me down so much just now.

Am I in the wrong?

Yesterday my husband and I went on a “date” which is really rare and happens one every 2/3 months. Childcare was all sorted . I was really looking forward to it we had everything planned from restaurant to the activities afterwards. Anyway I get myself all ready and we make our way there as we are ready to step out of the car he very randomly dropped that he had sent a sum of money to his father who lives in another country. It was like he planned to tell me in that second so I couldn’t react (not to ruin date night) I stayed silent and said nothing all the way until our food came in the restaurant and he started talking about our summer holiday and I replied “how do you plan on paying for everything” to which he snapped and replied “let’s address the elephant in the room” long story short , I was upset he didn’t tell me he was going to do it or that he had even done it after he sent the money but he waited until the end of the day when we’re about to go on our date night to tell me so I couldn’t have a natural reaction. His thing was that he doesn’t need to tell me that he’s sending his father money if he has it then he has it , also thinks my problem is that he sent money in the first place and that he doesn’t need to tell me or take permission. There is reasons behind why he shouldn’t send his father money because he has other grown siblings who will take it and benefit from it not even the father. Anyways the whole night was ruined , we argued for hours, didn’t eat our food at the restaurant or go to the entertainment afterwards. We are married 10 years and tell eachother absolutely everything in our day so I just don’t understand why he didn’t tell me.