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First time mums

Am I in the wrong?

Yesterday my husband and I went on a “date” which is really rare and happens one every 2/3 months. Childcare was all sorted . I was really looking forward to it we had everything planned from restaurant to the activities afterwards. Anyway I get myself all ready and we make our way there as we are ready to step out of the car he very randomly dropped that he had sent a sum of money to his father who lives in another country. It was like he planned to tell me in that second so I couldn’t react (not to ruin date night) I stayed silent and said nothing all the way until our food came in the restaurant and he started talking about our summer holiday and I replied “how do you plan on paying for everything” to which he snapped and replied “let’s address the elephant in the room” long story short , I was upset he didn’t tell me he was going to do it or that he had even done it after he sent the money but he waited until the end of the day when we’re about to go on our date night to tell me so I couldn’t have a natural reaction. His thing was that he doesn’t need to tell me that he’s sending his father money if he has it then he has it , also thinks my problem is that he sent money in the first place and that he doesn’t need to tell me or take permission. There is reasons behind why he shouldn’t send his father money because he has other grown siblings who will take it and benefit from it not even the father. Anyways the whole night was ruined , we argued for hours, didn’t eat our food at the restaurant or go to the entertainment afterwards. We are married 10 years and tell eachother absolutely everything in our day so I just don’t understand why he didn’t tell me.