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Hey guys I feel like I’m failing my daughter, I feel like she is so far behind all the other kids her age. She’s having trouble with colors and letters. She knows a couple of her ABCs but then gives up when she has to try. I’ve bought different tracing tools and books. She has no interest. She just ends up getting frustrated and has a meltdown. I’m a SAHM so the guilt of her not understanding it eating me up. Do you guys have any tips? I’m thinking about making a “school corner” for her.

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Do you have a local library near you that does toddler storytime? They had a really cool educational play area that my son loves

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So at this age, learning is more through play. The internet these days puts toxic expectations in your head sometimes. Just focus on playing, a school corner is nice and all but unnecessary. Take out some paper and crayons and let her scribble. Repeat colors as she uses them. Count her snacks with her, stairs as she climbs. Just repeat things, you’ll get tired of hearing yourself talk, but it’s fine.

Keep it simple and fun, you don’t need extra tools or supplies.

Also, keep in mind that knowing abcs, colors, numbers things like that are fine and all…but also so is everyday practical language. Talk to her often, read to her often, don’t underestimate repetitive songs.

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This is what took me 4 years to understand and its that EVERY child is different. They all learn in their own ways. My oldest is 4 (will be 5 in august) shes great at trackng shapes but struggles hard with her abc and numbers. (She can count to 3) and she also struggles alot with her speech. (Were estimating her to be about a year or 2 behind with many things) but shes SOO bright and her empathy and ability to take care of things is amazing! Thats her strength. My 2 year old my feb 2024 baby shes more “average” but cant do ABC or numbers or tracing she has NO interest lol
We as moms make things things harder on everyone because we want to do whats best but she will get there! Keep introducing her to things and make it fun! Kids learn most through play, things that interest them. You are doing amazing girly and so isnt your daughter ❤️

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My daughter is 2 days younger than yours. She barely sings part of the abc song. We go over a letter a week and im making it into her own abc book of things she really likes. She knows the letter one day and then doesn't. I believe letter recognition comes later. Just giving your kiddos the exposure is what they need, not mastery any time soon. Give yourself some grace Mama

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So I have a 3 year old and a 2 year old. My 3 year old son is autistic and non verbal but my 2 year old can talk all day. They both know their colors, letters and numbers, but learned them at their own pace. What we did was just taped a big piece of paper on the wall in their play area and wrote out numbers 1-20, all the basic colors and the alphabet in capital letters (they don’t know lowercase yet). Nothing special just wrote it out. We just left it up and went over it probably a dozen times a day but we didn’t put too much pressure on it and read it out while they were playing and also just left it up for them to look at in the day. It’s just a looooooott of repetition. Like a lot. Or like randomly when we see numbers, letters or colors in public or on the tv or in the house we’d be like “oh hey look guys it’s red!” Or “hey look that’s the letter B!”. I know every child is different but that’s just what worked for us.

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