Should I say something to this so called “friend”?
So I met this mom on here and it’s been about a year and a half. I’m 32, she’s 37 so little age difference plus, she’s in the middle of divorce and I’m a single mom… little backstory. Her kids are a year or two younger than mine but we all hang out and we all have fun. It’s been a while since we hung out, so last weekend we planned I will go pick her up because she doesn’t have her car right now due to an accident, and we would just go to the park with the kids. The morning of we text good morning, she’s having a good morning, I’m having a good morning and then our plans were set for 4pm so around the 12pm I texted her for her address to navigate my stops to get the snacks, her and get to the park. She responded 45 minutes later saying “ please don’t kill me, but I’m in a good cleaning groove so let’s reschedule.” I never responded. I was actually annoyed because you’re telling me that when I’ve been planning my whole day around our day…. And over cleaning? So now it’s been a week I haven’t heard from her. Should I just delete her? Should I say something? It is not fair for her to have access to me when she wants it and wants to vent but when it’s time to execute plans, she never participates and I don’t think that’s a good friend. When it’s time for her to vent, she will send me a book to read in our text messages and I read it all and I listen and I gave her the time but nothing is ever reciprocated..
Out of wedlock kids
Am I the only one that feels some type of way about giving my kids my partners last name out of wedlock? I’m pretty traditional as far as needing to be married to make a last name my partners. I just don’t feel right about not sharing a last name with my partner and then my children having his last name without marriage. My first son has my last name, my partner wasn’t happy about it when it happened and now I’m more than halfway pregnant with my second baby and I plan on giving her my last name as well. A part of me does feel bad because I feel like it is unfair to him, but also a part of me doesn’t sit right with knowing me and him don’t share a last name to begin with. I feel like he’ll be upset this time around as well but I’ve already expressed it multiple times that until there’s marriage I just don’t feel comfortable with my children having his last name when I don’t even have it. I don’t even feel right about having two kids with a man and not having his last name. Anyways a part of me feels like he just doesn’t even wanna marry me and that’s a big reason as to why I wouldn’t give them his last name to begin with. I just don’t feel hopeful about it being in the future or in the cards for us. I just feel like it’s not something that’s that important to him and it’s very important to me and we just don’t see eye to eye with marriage. We’ve only been together four years, anytime he has talked about it. It’s like a future future thing. I’m expressed that it doesn’t have to be anything expensive it’s just the principle in my beliefs that would make me feel more secure and loved. I know a lot of people might disagree and they do it for their partner anyways but for future reference, I just don’t wanna have to deal with any of my children having his last name when I don’t have his last name and anything could happen in the future as far as splitting up, and I’m not trying to deal with my children having his last name when they are children out of wedlock to begin with. I’m not an extremely religious person or anything, but my traditional beliefs as far as marriage are pretty stern and I just see myself being a woman that is married with children so I already having two children and not being married kind of feels like I failed in a sense. It’s starting to become a dealbreaker for me. I know I probably sound a little impatient, but two kids in 2 years happened really quickly and I feel like that’s much more of a commitment than marriage is. I’m not an extravagant woman that needs a $2000 ring or a big wedding or anything. It’s just a principle of the last name that changes a lot of things for me.
overreacting or would you be mad too?
my son had a play at his school on wednesday, i went and watched him & as we were leaving he said goodbye to a little girl and she told him to give him a hug and he did so. mind you, this little girls mother watched this entire interaction and didn’t intervene. yesterday i got a letter in his folder sent home stating someone in his class has lice and to thoroughly check our children’s hair for the next few days to weeks. i explained to my son that it happens sometimes and often little kids have unfortunate home circumstances and they get lice because of things out of their own hands and it doesn’t make them gross or dirty, its just an unfortunate circumstance and to not even think of trying to figure out who it is and just let it go because we’re checking his head religiously daily now. well, today my son comes home and tells me that the little girl who hugged him wednesday came into the classroom today and announced to everyone that she is the one with lice. her mom sat and watched her daughter hug my son and didn’t say a word a day before the letter went out stating someone has it. would you be mad too? i mean yes i understand like i told my son sometimes people can’t help it and not everyone has a good home life, but to sit and watch her daughter hug my son probably already knowing her daughter has it.. i’m sort of angry with woman, as a mother i wouldn’t even think of letting my child touch another child if i knew my kid had lice and she just watched and didn’t say a thing. obviously i wasn’t expecting her to say hey don’t she has lice, but she could’ve just told her no or said something to prevent her from hugging my son.
