I just want it all the end!!!!

Im just ready to end it all. I ask for help im crazy, I reach out to so call friends and family nothing. Im drowning in my own thoughts. I talk about my feelings and my thoughts all day and all this man does is shake his fucking head. Im about ready to kick it off his fucking shoulders!!! I do not get a break from these kids. Im in the house all day every day. Im about to lose my shit!!!!

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Hey! I'm sorry you're going through a terrible time right now... I hope you can find some support soon. Therapy has helped me through some hard times when I didn't feel like I had support either. Do you have insurance that could help with that?

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I am so sorry to hear that. Please don't give up! Is there anything we can do for you? You can call the suicide hotline if you want someone to listen to you without judgment. The # is 988.

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I understand how u feel hun its like the same thing everyday same four walls and ur partner doesnt understand how u feel xx im here if u need to talk x

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This is completely valid and understandable why you may feel this way. Brining up children is so hard and sometimes men/ partners and many other don’t understand how hard it is to do the main load.

Please please reach out for professional help if you’re feeling the way you’re saying. If your from the UK call 111 and select the mental health option . If your not please look up support options . You need someone to help you with your mental health and put you first x

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Dear momma,
I’m really glad you said this out loud. what you’re feeling is overwhelm, not failure. And it sounds incredibly intense right now.
You’re stuck in a cycle of no support, no breaks, constant noise, and feeling dismissed by the one person who should be helping you. Anyone in that position would feel like they’re about to snap. That doesn’t make you “crazy”, it means you’re overloaded.
And I’ll be honest: him shaking his head while you’re clearly drowning isn’t okay. It needs addressing, YES but not in this moment when everything feels like it’s about to explode.
Right now, create a little space. Step into another room or outside for a few minutes of fresh air. Then say one clear sentence: “I am not okay. I need you to take over for 30 minutes.” No discussion just a handover.
You’re not weak for feeling like this. You’re under-supported, overstimulated, and exhausted and that combination can break anyone down.

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I’m here to msg if you want to talk! 🩷

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I GET IT! support systems sometimes don't do the supporting that is needed. And husbands or parnters are so clueless that it makes you question your own judgement on who you had kids with. They say stupid things like "if you tell me what to do ill do it" but no one is there telling us, laundry has to be done, dishes have to be clean, the kids need baths, you can't leave them alone hey are too young, what to feed them when to feed them. No one is telling us what to do so why do we have to tell a whole other adult that these thing need to be done when we are suppose to be partners. It seems so hopeless, but listen if you can believe it. It isn't always going to be like this, it won't always be like this. Don't stop reaching out for help. Even if you feel guilty and useless because you find that all you are doing lately is reaching for help or looking for help. Don't stop. Keep searching for the help, you deserve it. You deserve to see whats on the otherside of this hardship. I'm sorry that it hurts so bad.

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Is he competent enough to be left with the kids if you just went for a 30 min walk rn? Without telling him.

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Focus on the moment. It’s hard because it’s simple and our brains aren’t simple. Go on a walk and think about every sound you hear. Every single one. Focus on the exact moment you’re in. It won’t fix things right away but the more you do it, it will fix it. You’ll train your brain to get out of those thought loops and focus on the present moment

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Why can't you see one?

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Can you try getting into another practice? Are you located in the US?

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You need a rhythm mama.
Get outside once a day. outside and play groups feel good for everyone

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Out of wedlock kids

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I just want it all the end!!!!

Im just ready to end it all. I ask for help im crazy, I reach out to so call friends and family nothing. Im drowning in my own thoughts. I talk about my feelings and my thoughts all day and all this man does is shake his fucking head. Im about ready to kick it off his fucking shoulders!!! I do not get a break from these kids. Im in the house all day every day. Im about to lose my shit!!!!

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