Feeling like a bad mom

My baby is only one month and i feel like im already failing. Me and my child father don’t live near each other, (1 hour apart) and i was thinking of being nice and staying a week up there before i go back to work with the baby, well now im regretting it 1000% my baby is super congested 💔🥺 and i feel so bad and i know its my fault I should’ve stayed home his doctors isn’t until next Thursday but im definitely contacting his doctors office to see if i can get a earlier appointment, he’s eating fine i just don’t like to hear my baby like this it hurts my heart, i did the shower steam, and i got a humidifier going, i did noticed drainage but it looks like light yellow I’m not too sure im a first time mom so my anxiety is through the roof! Also im so angry at his dad like how can you sleep so damn peaceful knowing the baby could potentially be sick and it just isn’t newborn congestion. Times like this I feel so alone because as a father idk I feel like he should be showing more concern and this is exactly why I don’t even feel comfortable leaving him with his dad by himself for too long.

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Nursery Inspiration

Our daughter will be in the box room- need inspiration what to do, decorate, add. It’s our first girl after 2 boys!

Furniture can all be moved 🎀

SEASONING BABY FOOD WITHOUT SALT?

Hi mamas! I’m trying to introduce more home-cooked meals for my 1-year-old without adding salt yet. How do you season your babies’ food to keep it tasty? I’d really appreciate your ideas 🫶🏽

Thinking about separation from husband.

Hi, so my son has just turned 1. He’s our only child. I’m really starting to think about separating from my husband. For context I had a really bad pregnancy with lots of complications, I’m suffering and in therapy for birth trauma as we speak.

I’m absolutely loving being a mum and despite the trauma and bad pregnancy I am the happiest and fulfilled I’ve ever been.

However my husband gives me no support. I hate to use the word but he is lazy. This isn’t about the mental load fully it’s just general help. He will watch me struggle and sigh and huff when I ask for help. Everytime I ask for some help/ something to be done I’m accused of micro managing him. I’ve tried to explain post partum issues ie hair loss (which got me down for a long time) and he just said “it’ll grow back”

He is the most amazing dad he is so fun and “hands on” but as a husband I’m
Not sure I can do this anymore. The days where it’s just me and my son it feels so much easier. I feel like I have 2 children sometimes with my husband and he just doesn’t understand.

I’ve spoken to my mum and his mum who I am very close with and she says that’s just him. He’s always been relaxed and a bit lazy. But now we have a child I’m carrying everything. Every day he forgets to brush our child’s teeth. It’s not a massive thing but every day I say please remember to brush his teeth and sometimes honestly it feels like he forgets on purpose 😭

I’ve tried to talk honestly and he just turns it to me being a bitch and not understand post partum. Ive sent him NHS articles about birth trauma etc and he just doesn’t take anything on board.

I’ve suggested trying therapy together but he doesn’t think we need it. He says I have high standards he can’t meet. Which isn’t true. I’m so relaxed and long as our toilets are clean I’m so easy going with housework. He just doesn’t support ME.

Just looking for a bit of advice because it’s bringing me down so much just now.

Could anybody tell how to make sandwiches for baby??

Does we need to toast the bread
What fillings we can add
Do you close another layer or is it an open sandwich

l don't have no idea how make a sandwich, that's why

How do you do it?

For the stay at home mums who are responsible for their kiddos for the whole day, how do you do it? What are some tips for maintaining your energy and sanity while looking after your kids the whole day, day after day?

For reference I have a 10 month old and a 2 year old and my husband works 12 hour days. I’ve had help from family so far but now I’ll mostly be by myself.

How do you limit or avoid physical and mental exhaustion?

Refusing solids

My baby is almost 9 months and is still refusing solids
He does occasionally pick at a few things I give him like chicken, bits of rice, tuna and fruits, but he’s never ate a “full meal”
He refuses to even try any purées and just turns his head away. I’m getting very concerned now.
Does anyone have any tips ?