is it just mine or do you have the same problem?

Yes. Majority of Men naturally think the baby is the wifes responsibility. I sometimes do what i call “mirroring”…. where the next night id do exactly what he did. Basically holds a mirror up and helps him see hiself and how unfair whatever he did was lol. And he cant say much because… u apparently thought it was ok… and if its ok for u then its ok for me lol. Makes him think . Id say “im gonna get a full nights sleep tonight…. Night🤣😩!

I think a lot of men are selfish. My husband is relatively good mostly but I also do the mirroring that K said above. Eg I'll say I need an hour to go for a walk and get a coffee but I'll take 2 hours. I basically behave a bit entitled...and I enjoy it!

Ignore the messages for longer than usual. And then say something very insignificant like 'oh don't worry you know how to comfort her she'll be fine!' And then just don't look at your phone too often. You've got to show them through your actions cos I find words don't get through sometimes. And then make sure to carve out time for yourself regularly for your own mental wellbeing. Learn to put yourself first from time to time, it is hard bc you don't want to be away from your baby but try and do it.

The not really helping when you're both ill is not good. Maybe sit down and talk to him. And then say that you need a couple of nights alone and sleep in the spare room or sofa and then let him deal with baby in the morning whilst you snooze. Dramatise it a bit if you need you, and don't feel guilty. You're not doing anything they don't do!