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You're not doing anything wrong, you're doing what works for your baby and family. My son only wanted to sleep next to me in bed his entire life. He's 16 months old and more often now he will spend full nights in his crib or his floor bed. But a lot of nights, he also still comes back to bed with me.

Please look at research on newborn attachment. Your baby wanting to be with and on you doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong. It is the biological imperative of all children especially in the first few weeks/months. Many cultures recognize and respect this stage as such, but Western countries tend to over emphasize hyper independence before it is developmentally appropriate.

You aren't doing anything wrong because your baby wants you. It was a hugely traumatic incident to be born and then not have the same heartbeat, smell, comfort you have only ever known. This stage feels like forever but passes so quickly in the scheme of things.

Do you have anyone who can go over to monitor you if you wanted to baby wear elevated and take short naps with baby? My mom did this for me and it was so helpful. Or even just on the bed away from blankets they can scroll and check up every few minutes to be sure you're safe and not on baby if it gives you extra comfort to get rest and be nearby baby for a short while.

Babies won't sleep through until later, think 4-6 months at earliest as their circadian rhythm takes time to develop hormones that regulate sleep appropriately. And that's at the earliest.

My Dr had me wake up my baby to feed at least every 4 hrs initially to prevent weight loss issues, babies getting too tired or under fed and losing weight or being dehydrated that young can be a medical emergency real quick, and not always but often enough that some pediatricians advise no long stretches of sleep to feed and keep energy/growth up.

It's hard work, please give yourself some grace. It will get easier. You are doing a great job, mama.

Normal for a new baby

This is incredibly normal. Ignore anything you see on social media / here / that you’re told that suggests it’s not.

Completely normal and what’s lead to me doing safe co-sleeping 😂 only way me and baby get a great night’s rest!

Youre not doing anything wrong. Remember she literally is experiencing the world for the first time and can not walk, talk, or move really. You are her comfortable and safe place. Its normal for babies to want to be near mom all the way up to 3/4 but especially rhe first year. Try a sound machine that mimics your heart beat… that helped my lil one. Also a swaddle helped her feel more embraced and secured like she was being held and she would sleep more independently.

Baby just wants to be close to mummy, you’re not doing anything wrong at all, babies don’t know they’re an individual until at least 6ms old and whilst they’re napping on u or with u it’s actually regulating their little bodies, nervous system, heart rate, emotional state and so on and that’s probably why they get separation anxiety from around 5/6ms old, you’re doing absolutely amazing mamma!!

We use a sleep sack at bedtime when he’s in his crib and that works for my boy 90% of the time but only at night, daytime though…….. no sooner I put him down he is wide awake within 1-2 mins, he also cries ALOT so putting him down in the day is a no go x

Have you noticed she only sleeps when close you?
Because that’s where she should be. She’s 9 weeks old. Still very new and still very much needing your touch and your closeness.

You aren’t doing anything wrong, we’re the only mammals on the planet that believe & got told our babies should be sleeping independently the moment they pop out the womb. They want closeness, warmth, your smell & familiarity. It’s tiring but loving & so short lasting so make the most of it! Make sure you have a carrier in the house so your hands are free for daytime sleeps / walks & get your partner on board with this too! Fresh air definitely helps so get outside for some lovely spring air & sun on your skin, you’ve got this & one day they’ll sleep through their naps & the night 🤍 if you keep trying the sleeping in the crib then you could try a hot water bottle in their crib beforehand (obviously not keeping it in!!!) a muslin safely tucked in that smells of you, white noise machine or Spotify, try avoid darkening the room unnecessarily in the daytime as you want them to learn the different between day & night time. A swaddle / sleep sack is great for bedtim! You’ve got this!!!