I need advice
Me and my partner have been together 6 years. At the start we were perfect, but about a year and a half in I found out he was entertaining another girl sending him nudes, and things became toxic after that. We stayed together and things improved, especially during my first pregnancy, but after having my daughter in 2023 everything became stressful—his dad suddenly left him to run the family business, my parents split up, and I was newly postpartum. We broke up, I got my own place but never moved in because we got back together. A year later I had another baby, and again things were good during pregnancy but difficult postpartum.
Now in 2026, my daughter has respiratory issues likely caused by damp in our home, so I’ve moved in with my mum with both kids until we find something else. It’s crowded and exhausting, and I’m constantly back and forth sorting things. My partner still lives at our house and comes down at 6 gets his dinner then leaves at 8. Despite everything, he keeps telling me to find my own place and accuses me of not being attracted to him because we’re not having sex, even though I’m still recovering and have been bleeding. I’m overwhelmed looking after two young children with no break, and instead of support, he complains and criticises me over small things.
I feel like he’s always going against what I say & putting me down. Sometimes I actually get scared to tell him simple things because I’m scared of the reaction I get. I’m constantly left in tears from the way he shouts at me and the words he uses.
I would hate to split up my family but staying in something that keeps repeating the same hurt without change—that’s what i need to question now?
Is it time to let go or is this just minor and we will be fine?
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It doesn’t sound like your family’s very together to begin with in the sweetest way. I’d use this as the out personally. He isn’t and wants to contribute nothing so. Move on. Him wanting sex while you’re uncomfortable and causing problems over it tells you everything
he sounds awful and disrespectful to you. I promise you there is a better man out there who will love you so much more and treat you right
You have a daughter.
Look at her, pretend in a few years, she was in the same position you are and ask yourself what's the advice you would give her?
Because that's what you're teaching her to put up with and view herself as, this is what you're showing her is a relationship and what she should strive for.
If it's not what you want for your daughter, it shouldn't be what you want for yourself.
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