Children birthdays

I would split the actual day with your child’s father like I would have one of you guys have them in the morning bring them to breakfast you know have fun and then somebody take them in the evening and then they can have birthday dinner or whatever and then have him plan his party and you plan yours. you ain’t even gotta explain to him really because if there’s already a situation he already knows.

I’m sorry you have a high conflict, baby daddy I feel for you

Yea I was thinking the same. I feel sorry for my oldest, she will be hurt. But i cant pretend. He is a manipulator, a liar and there is no low he wont go to make himself look like a victim.

I know that sucks that your oldest will be hurt but at the same time she has to understand that you’re being mature by doing this you could just simply cut them off but no you’re putting your children first but at the same time having boundaries you gotta have boundaries I have a high conflict Baby mama and I tell you what I have to do the same thing and my stepson don’t like it. He actually thinks I’m the problem we just have to stick to our boundaries and our kids will figure it out. They will figure out that we were being the mature ones by staying away I give you props cause any other child’s mother would’ve just not let him be around,

I currently have a protective order against my children’s father so he cannot be around me. For their birthdays, he got to celebrate them on a day that worked with his schedule example- one child is born on the 18th and he spent the evening of the 17th with him. He had a similar arrangement for our other child

Rest in understanding when they are older and understanding better they will probably see things for what they are and some people will be held accountable, they will have questions and demand answers