Anxious/Isolated

Anyone else feeling really isolated and anxious? I’m 6+1 weeks today and I found out at 3+5 weeks after TTC for 3.5 years and having a chemical last Oct. My anxiety is naturally through the roof and my booking appointment isn’t until I’m 10+1 weeks :( no idea when my first scan is either. Feel like I’m winding my husband and family up with my anxiety but I can’t help it🥲 I’m a mature student (24) in uni (2nd year) so my friends are all in a different stage in their lives and don’t really get it - long story short - anyone else feeling like they’re losing the plot lol

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try to relax and be chilled.. keep yourself busy untill that time x

These early days are so hard, I sympathise! Second time round and I’m in a real head funk again, it’s the uncertainty that’s so tricky. Do you have any pregnancy apps? I find it reassuring to read about what is happening at each stage. Also, I know this isn’t possible for everybody, but a private early scan can be very reassuring. Might be worth exploring in your area?

Definitely have a private scan if you can, you can have them from 6 or 7 weeks in most places ☺️ it really gives peace of mind that everything is okay and going as it should be. I’m pregnant with my second now and my first I had a couple of private ones because I also felt anxious after miscarriages, it’s gets less worrying as the pregnancy progresses tho, once you have more symptoms and can feel the baby move

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Is this a positive ?

It’s extremely faint!!
Fingers crossed it is!!

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going soft during sex

sorry idk if this is tmi but i started dating this guy 2 months ago, so it’s still early but we’ve had sex a few times and it’s always been really good, until last night where we were having sex for about an hour, he didn’t cum and then went soft whilst we were having sex.. i just feel so insecure like it’s my fault. i literally started crying after because im worried he doesn’t find me attractive. he apologised and said he doesn’t know why it happened but idk, maybe it’s just my insecurities but im worried he doesn’t find me as attractive as he says he does
he is older than me (he’s 45, im 22) so idk if it’s like an age thing, or if it’s just normal or what idk i’ve never had this with a guy before

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Finding my Village far from home

Moving countries as a mum can feel incredibly lonely. Not having a support network is hard, but what hurts the most is seeing your child grow up without little friends around.

I’ve tried parks, cafés, libraries… but it often feels like there’s an invisible barrier. Sometimes people don’t make eye contact, or keep their distance, and it can be really discouraging.

My little one turned 2 years old next month and we will didn’t have a single baby to celebrate with.

It’s been tough, and I know I can’t be the only one feeling this way.

I’d really love to connect with other mums who are open, kind, and willing to build a sense of community—because we all deserve that, and so do our children 🤍

All this make me feel and think this now the correct how we want raise all children's without empathy for another one.

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