Second child: yes or no?
Genuine question, completely non-judgmental! I’m honestly just curious about how people made this decision. :)
When I ask friends, the most common reasons seem to be things like:
“They’ll have someone to grow up with,” or “They won’t be alone later in life.”
But I rarely hear people talk about the other side of it too, like how having a second child can mean less time for yourself, less sleep for potentially quite a long time, the financial side of it (!!) balancing career/family/relationship, going through pregnancy and postpartum again, and adapting to the fact that your second child could be completely different from your first (in both good and challenging ways).
And of course, there’s no guarantee siblings will necessarily be close, just like an only child can still have a very full and happy life.
So I’d genuinely love to hear:
What made you decide to have a second child, or decide not to?
What were the biggest factors in your decision? Thank you.
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My march daughter is my second. We have 2.5 years between our girls.
It’s tiring but I don’t think anymore tiring than one. The first year is the most tiring. In the second year they play together more and now as we are going into the third year they play even better together. It’s adorable.
I still go to the gym 3-4 times a week have done since my youngest was 15months. Have my nails done, eyebrows. Time with husband. It’s just about finding your “new” routine.
For us we always wanted more than one, I am not sure there would have been a time we didn’t have at least two.
Hope that helps.
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