Big baby comments

My 3 month old son is on the 99th centile for both his height and weight (I'm 6ft and his dad is 6ft5) and we seem to get lots of comments from people about it.. (he's a bruiser/chunk/big boy ect.) I've always had trouble with body image and I don't know if I'm just being overly sensitive but I feel a pang of sadness whenever someone says a comment about his size... What are some good comebacks to say when people make these comments, without being rude or confrontational

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I would be honest and say it upsets you - I was called "chunky" as a kid and I hated it

I used to get this all the time with my first too - he was also 99th centile but my husband and I are both under 5ft5 so wasn’t genetic, he was just big 🤣 but I was also very sensitive about it as he was EBF and made me feel like I was doing something wrong (I wasn’t!). I always went with something simple like ‘I know, isn’t he amazing / gorgeous / beautiful’ etc. And for reference, he’s 3.5 now and between the 2&9th centile & I miss all those gorgeous leg rolls 🥹

Agree with Lauren above but also you could point out how that's what a healthy baby can look like. I know babies come in all shapes and sizes (like people) and mine is on the other end of the spectrum (9th centile) but babies in general are meant to be chunky! That's why we talk about baby fat and all that.

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