Fussy and extremely clingy baby - help

Hi ladies,

Having a very overstimulated day.

Baby is 13 weeks and its carnage.
The mornings are non stop screaming unless I pick her up, as soon as we get out the house she stops. I wheel her into the bathroom in her next to me and have it so she can see me when in the shower, I interact with her and when getting dressed have her literally next to me in her next to me. I have music playing and I sing and dance to her as I am getting dressed but still non stop screaming unless I physically pick her up which at times is not practical.

The evenings are the same- I usually have her in an indoor carrier in the evening as im cooking etc then take her out when starting bath time etc. This evening I showered and dried my hair before starting dinner- none of this has happened as she hasnt stopped screaming. Again I am doing everything i can to keep interaction going and lean into her in rocker and talk to her and give her a kiss and stroke her face.

I am sitting on the sofa holding her and again just so fussy. If I pull her sock up- she cries, if I try to put her down- she cries. I looked away to type this and she is on me and she whinges. She is talking away and im interacting with her too.

What on earth is going on? What do I do? Xx

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AITA??

I think I already know the answer but here goes..

I have an urgent scan booked tomorrow to test for stomach cancer. It's a camera down my throat and I've asked for sedation so I will need someone to take me and bring me home.

Hubby says he can't get time off work and I know he hasn't even asked. He's completely swamped after being on holiday for two weeks. Meetings after meetings m, etc. I'm really upset that he hasn't even asked. He was like 'I have to work' he was shouting about how busy he is at work.

I'm a young mum with a very young boy. I'm not ready for all of this and I need the support. The procedure itself is awful, I'm a RN and my mind is in overdrive. Am I being a child for wanting him to be there or is he just not being supportive?

Please be kind, I'm terrified!

Feeling invalidated

My son is 18 months and is a serious cheeky monkey stage. I’m a pretty laid back parent unless he’s doing something that could hurt himself or break something I don’t normally intervene (within reason of course). The other day we were visiting his grandma on his dad’s side and he was slamming his toy really hard on her table over and over again. I told him to be gentle and not to slam his toy so he didn’t end up hurting himself or breaking his toy. He obviously kept doing it and every time I’d gently tell him to be careful and to instead roll the toy. My partners mum then said something along the lines of “oh he’s fine leave him be”. My partners also joined in with saying that he was fine playing as he was.

This really has wound me up as it’s not the first time this has happened. Like I say I’m not a super strict mum however he’s still a baby and learning so I’m trying to gently teach him to be careful but whenever I try and parent I feel like I’m made to feel like I’m being over the top.

I don’t really know the purpose of this other than to vent a little and ask what people’s views are? I’ve been struggling with anxiety really bad since having my son so I’m constantly second guessing myself

I hate motherhood

I love my child so much but being a solo parent is hard. Its not enjoyable. Im constantly burnt out on edge. I have no energy at all. I just feel miserable. I dont get a break not even 5 mintues to shower. Some days I wish I could just walk away. I didnt expect to be completely on my own but here i am. My child is high needs (which is fine) but I feel like im not giving her enough because im so focused on trying to juggle everything. She will sleep max of 6hrs in a 24hr period. She wont be put down for more than 10 mintues at a time.

Which nanny would you choose?

If you had to pick a nanny based solely on the nannies style, which would you pick and why?

Breakfast meltdowns

My one year old is screaming at every breakfast without fail. We're not 100% sure why but we think she doesn't want to eat with a spoon. Has anyone else experienced this and what did you do?
I've been leaning toward BLW because of this which I didn't really want to do but breakfast is hard to do that with porridge etc.
Are there any good recipes for BLW breakfast type foods?
And is there a way to get her to eat with a spoon? Or do I park that issue for now?
Any advice welcome. It is such a bad start to the day right now!

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Just wondering if anyone else’s boyfriend/husband thinks because you are a SAHM that all the responsibility of the children is on you?
(I have 3 children, 12year old from previous relationship. A 5year old & a 13month with my boyfriend)
My boyfriend doesn’t help with the kids, just sits on his laptop playing his game, hours at a time when he comes home from work & on days off.
I was told ‘he shouldn’t have to come home from work after working & ‘babysit’ the children’??!!
All I want to do is do few jobs round house, without having to watch my 1year old as-well as trying to do them..
I just need a little breather!