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Just wondering if anyone else’s boyfriend/husband thinks because you are a SAHM that all the responsibility of the children is on you?
(I have 3 children, 12year old from previous relationship. A 5year old & a 13month with my boyfriend)
My boyfriend doesn’t help with the kids, just sits on his laptop playing his game, hours at a time when he comes home from work & on days off.
I was told ‘he shouldn’t have to come home from work after working & ‘babysit’ the children’??!!
All I want to do is do few jobs round house, without having to watch my 1year old as-well as trying to do them..
I just need a little breather!

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my husband knows better not to try that with me I value my peace a lot and will trip out over him not doing something like tend to the kids. it don’t matter that he works and you don’t. he gets to take breaks and you don’t. does he have days off? plan yourself a nice day or a few hours to yourself out of the house and leave him with them without his knowledge and see what he says about being home with the kids all day

I would just leave every evening for at least 45 minutes. Get yourself some fresh air, go for a drive, play with dirt lol whatever you feel like doing. I would just tell my man, I'm going outside, I'll be back at ___o clock. And leave. If he asks where you're going. "I need some air" "Going outside" Just take what you need! That's what he is doing. 🤷🏻‍♀️

He's a father, he needs to act like one.
There is no babysitting your own children.

He’s not being expected to come home and babysit, silly man.
He’s being expected to come home and continue his responsibilities as a parent and adult, just like you are expected to do 25/8.

When he says stuff that’s blatantly rude, I’ll use other words to reiterate what he said to make him feel like shit about himself or his choice in that moment, He realizes oh, what I said.. is.. bad….

I have a younger baby so the dynamic is a bit different. My husband is amazing with kids, like our niece and nephew (which is one reason i decided to have kids with him). But after having our son i realized he’s good with toddlers, not babies 😅🥲 so as a result, ive felt extremely alone in parenting and caring for our son. He will also leave most chores to me (including his laundry) bc he’s fresh out of college and his mom did too much for him as the baby of 6. So i stopped automatically taking care of things like his laundry and let him wake up to go to work with no clean clothes. He’s politely asked me to do his laundry or done it himself every time since then. I also give him choices of how to help me instead of expecting him to realize what i need. So ill say do you want to change the baby or clean the high chair. Do you want to let the dogs out or watch the baby while he’s playing…

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