What do I do if my kid doesnt tell me the truth about something that happened at school?

So my 7 year old was giving me a hard time this morning. She fought with me all morning with getting ready. She told me when she woke up that she didnt want to go to school. I told her that she has to. So after battling to get her ready. When I sat her down she finally told me she didnt want to go because this boy at school was kicking her at recess. Which I did find out the day before because my mother told me that her and the boy got taken to the principals office for it. She told me that he kept kicking her and she kicked him back (which shes been getting bullied at school and the teachers wont do anything. So I told her its ok to defend herself and fight back). So because of her not wanting to go to school. I told my husband to mention it to her teacher. He didnt tell her everything. So since im trying to take it easy (39 weeks preggo) I messaged the teacher explaining what my daughter told me. Well my mom picks up my kid and brings her home. Proceeds to tell me that the teacher talked to her and told her that the kids play some version of hide and seek tag and they push and kick each other to get them off of eachother. She asked my daughter if the boy was kicking her and she told her no. Her teacher thinks that my daughter is reaching for attention because of the new baby coming because we have been doing a lot of preparations for the baby. She also said that she has noticed that when it gets closer to the end of the year. Kids start to act up because they are restless. Which I get but my daughter has been getting bullied all year. Shes been pushed against the wall. Shes been punched in the stomach. Theres even this one girl that told her that if she put her jacket on that she would get beat up. Which it was snowing that day and when my mom told her to put her hat and jacket on. She said "but im gonna get beat up" hence why I told my daughter if she gets hit, kicked or anything. To fight back and not let them do that to you because everytime she goes to a teacher about it. They say mind your own business or no tattle taleing. Her teacher even told her she HAD to have a parent come to them if something happened. Now tho I dont know what to believe. It explains that when something and she tells me that the teachers dont believe her. Is because she isnt telling the whole truth. She knows I will stick up for her because I was bullied in school. I will not let her feel like no one is on her side. I told her that she needs to be honest with me or I cant stick up for her. All she does is cry and says shes sorry but any time she gets in trouble. The waterworks start. Its just frustrating that she didnt even wanna tell me. She was upset with her Nana because she said something to me. Knowing that her father overheard everything then my daughter pulled him into her room and talked to him. I dont know what was said. Ive yet to discuss it with him because hes on nightshift. I dont know what to do. I know im the more stern parent. I do lose my patience with her because she tends to not listen to me. So I do raise my voice but I tried really hard to catch myself and apologize. Then have a calm talk with her. I just dont understand why she wont be honest. Ive always been her #1 support person. Her guidance. Everything. I need to know what you guys think. What im doing wrong. What im doing right. So I can try and fix it because im about to have another kid and I dont want them to not be honest with me.

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My sister in law is giving her 4 month old COWS MILK and SOLIDS

This is her second baby. Her first is 3 years old and I believe she fed solids at 3 months (no comment 🙄) and is now severely iron deficient - not sure if the 2 are connected but it makes sense if they are since he wasn’t having the right amount of milk. He also has immunity, speech delay and overall delayed development - again, could be cuz of that partially, could be otherwise, idk

My point is - she knows full well that giving cows milk isn’t normal and was in such a rush to start solids for god knows what reason.

Opinions? The combination of cow milk and solids at 4 months is very alarming. And btw her baby isn’t advanced (as in don’t show early signs of readiness for food) nor was it advised to start solids so young.

Can’t stand other kids only your own??

I’ve seen a few videos of people saying how they don’t like other kids. And get get so annoyed when other kids are around trying to talk to them and that they only like their own. I get it, kids can be annoying but the amount of people in the comments agreeing and saying things about other kids made me so sad. Obviously we tolerate and love our own kids but to just brush off all other kids is so weird to me and makes me sad for my daughter. A lot of kids who try to get attention from adults are just friendly or don’t get attention at home. Why be so mean about it??

Literally heartbroken

If you take the time to read this, then thank you, so much.

Tonight I have cried my eyes out for over an hour, thinking why do I deserve my children.

As a family we sat down and had a meal, that I had spent 2 hours preparing and cooking - our 7 month old is doing BLW, he was gagging, my husband will continuously interfere by trying to put water in his mouth, I spoke and said it’s best not to do that, it’s a natural thing they need to learn. He disagreed, literally did not want to listen.

I am struggling so badly at the moment with a toddler who turn 2 last month and a 7 month old, a SAHM who has worked all her life. I’m do get cross sometimes as my toddler will push me, my baby will cry whatever I try to do to help him. I have done EVERY night feed and wake up, even after an emergency CS. And tonight, my husband said that I don’t contribute to pay towards anything, I am horrible to my kids, I tell them no, I don’t go to work… i literally do 2 x £100 monthly food shops in a month, look after kids 24/7 with no break, been potty training, buy their clothes, the nappies, the general care and dr appts, the tantrums.

We have our arguments. But tonight hurt me. Like a blunt knife stabbing me over and over again. I feel like I shouldn’t have been given the opportunity to be a mum, especially after 2 miscarriages (with my husband so he knows). I just want to run away. But I love my kids too much. I try my hardest, I really do. I’ve always suffered with mental health, emotions, etc, he knows that. My kids are my life and tonight I looked at them and thought they just deserve so much better than me. 😭😭

Please help - long read (sorry)

Hi all, looking for outside views on this as as much as family and friends are helpful, I would like to know what others think of this from their perspective and people who don’t know me/us/our situation.

I’ve been with my husband 4 years and we have a baby together.
During my pregnancy, things were tough, there was many arguments and it was a tough time.
Since we’ve had our baby, I just feel like he is doing hardly anything, everytime I mention it to him or raise it, he bites back.
For example, he has a prolapse disc so he says he’s in pain, therefore he can’t hold our baby for more than 5 minutes. He comes home from work, he needs to lay down and relax as he’s tired. Everytime he is playing with him, he says he needs to go to the toilet or do something and can I have our baby back. He’s never had him alone away from me, as in taken him out. He never just has him because he is his son, it’s constantly me asking him to have him so I can do something. He never offers for me to have some ‘me’ time. He says he is tired from work and when he comes home he wants to chill. He lays in most mornings when he hasn’t got work. I do everything for our baby, he never puts the effort in and takes control.
He says he’s tired and blames it on his prolapse disc. May I add he can game for hours on end in a C shaped position but as soon as it comes to being responsible for our baby, he is in pain.
What would you think about this? I understand he is in pain with his back but surely this isn’t fair or right?
Opinions please ..

Family meal time

My 2 and 4 year old have always been quite “selective” eaters (the 2 year old has copied the 4 year old 😢) so we have slowly started giving them mainly what I would call kids dinner ie nuggets, pizza, fish fingers etc. But now for the last month or so they are largely refusing that and asking for toast, yoghurt, and fruit instead. I don’t want them to go to bed hungry but equally don’t want them to live off toast, fruit and yoghurt. Would you…

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