My sister in law is giving her 4 month old COWS MILK and SOLIDS

This is her second baby. Her first is 3 years old and I believe she fed solids at 3 months (no comment 🙄) and is now severely iron deficient - not sure if the 2 are connected but it makes sense if they are since he wasn’t having the right amount of milk. He also has immunity, speech delay and overall delayed development - again, could be cuz of that partially, could be otherwise, idk

My point is - she knows full well that giving cows milk isn’t normal and was in such a rush to start solids for god knows what reason.

Opinions? The combination of cow milk and solids at 4 months is very alarming. And btw her baby isn’t advanced (as in don’t show early signs of readiness for food) nor was it advised to start solids so young.

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That’s crazy I’d bring up to the whole family

It is alarming for sure, and I feel sad for the babies who cannot advocate for themselves, but at the end of the day - she is the parent and there isn't much that you can do, other than gently trying to find out why and suggest to delay till 6 mo. Even then cow's milk can only be added to food, not as replacement for formula/BM🤷🏻‍♀️

They won’t be getting anything they need from cows milk other than the fatty content really, absolutely shouldn’t be on anything other than breast milk or formula. They can’t have cows milk as a drink until they’re 12 months old. I’d say that’s borderline neglect and she really needs to reevaluate her priorities. Her priority should be baby’s health not convenience. It might be hard but I think you or a family member definitely need to say something especially with her first being so delayed developmentally x

Cows milk as the only milk they receive? If so, I would inform her that you love her and her child so much, you respect her parenting decisions, but you are concerned for their safety since breast milk or formula should be the primary source of nutrition for little one. Does she have financial constraints that she can’t afford formula? Is it a lack of knowledge? Something else going on? See what barriers there may be and address it that way and respectfully. After that has been exhausted, if you learn she is still serving cows milk as the only source of nutrition, I would contact CPS

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I've had enough.

Has anyone else left their partner after having their first child?

After two years of feeling like a single parent in a marriage (together 8 years, married for 4years.)
I've had enough...

We had a blow up a couple weeks ago where I told him that if things didn't change, I want a divorce.

He has made an effort with somethings, but it doesn't feel like enough. And feels like it's to little to late...

I do all the house work, take care of all the bills minus the mortgage, I take care of the food shopping, childcare arrangements, meals....pretty much all of it as well as working a rotating roster of late and night shifts at work... which I have to drive an hour to get to.

He works 6 days a week.
He has started to do dishes a couple times a week, started to shower a little more often. And had stopped body shaming me... masked as "jokes"...yes, I'm a curvy/heavier set lady... but I'm happy with my body and currently weigh less than I did when I got pregnant.
He used to nag me for sex all the time even though I never wanted it.
I have started to try making the effort to have sex with him more often... but it's difficult when I simply am not interested.

I've come to the realisation that, although I love him as our child's father... I am no longer IN love with him.

I'm scared and sad about it, but I know I have to do something about it....
Please help 🙁🥺

MIL more of a hindrance than a help - what would you do?

My Mother in Law is a lovely woman with such a kind heart and loves her grandchildren so much.

I like her and don’t mind spending time with her (in small doses!).

She is SO loud and has no awareness (can’t read a room) and since having my youngest baby (I have 3 kids) she keeps on assisting on coming over to ‘help’ every Tuesday for the WHOLE day.

But she doesn’t help 🙈 her personality is choatic, she is clumsy and just adds to my stress.
She tries to help bless her but ends up making a mess, it is impossible to get my baby to sleep because she is so loud and doesn’t seem to think it’s a big deal when she wakes the baby.

I have tried in subtle ways to put a stop to it but because I know her intentions are good, I don’t want to offend her.

What would you do?

Curious! SAHM, how much does hubby bring in?

Cause i wanna be sahm but idk if my husbands income is enough

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I was hoping that things would get better after a year of postpartum. Giving us a chance to get used to being first-time parents and to a big change in our lives. It just got worse. The emotional and physical distance got worse over time, and it just felt like we were friends. His excuse for not getting physical is that he's afraid that we’ll get pregnant again. Mind you, it took us 10 years to make our first one. We used to cuddle and hold hands all the time. Has anyone gotten out of this funk in their relationship? When did it stop feeling like we are roommates instead of being married couple.

My sister in law is giving her 4 month old COWS MILK and SOLIDS

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If you take the time to read this, then thank you, so much.

Tonight I have cried my eyes out for over an hour, thinking why do I deserve my children.

As a family we sat down and had a meal, that I had spent 2 hours preparing and cooking - our 7 month old is doing BLW, he was gagging, my husband will continuously interfere by trying to put water in his mouth, I spoke and said it’s best not to do that, it’s a natural thing they need to learn. He disagreed, literally did not want to listen.

I am struggling so badly at the moment with a toddler who turn 2 last month and a 7 month old, a SAHM who has worked all her life. I’m do get cross sometimes as my toddler will push me, my baby will cry whatever I try to do to help him. I have done EVERY night feed and wake up, even after an emergency CS. And tonight, my husband said that I don’t contribute to pay towards anything, I am horrible to my kids, I tell them no, I don’t go to work… i literally do 2 x £100 monthly food shops in a month, look after kids 24/7 with no break, been potty training, buy their clothes, the nappies, the general care and dr appts, the tantrums.

We have our arguments. But tonight hurt me. Like a blunt knife stabbing me over and over again. I feel like I shouldn’t have been given the opportunity to be a mum, especially after 2 miscarriages (with my husband so he knows). I just want to run away. But I love my kids too much. I try my hardest, I really do. I’ve always suffered with mental health, emotions, etc, he knows that. My kids are my life and tonight I looked at them and thought they just deserve so much better than me. 😭😭

My sister in law is giving her 4 month old COWS MILK and SOLIDS

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I've had enough.

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Curious! SAHM, how much does hubby bring in?

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My sister in law is giving her 4 month old COWS MILK and SOLIDS

Literally heartbroken