I've had enough.

Has anyone else left their partner after having their first child?

After two years of feeling like a single parent in a marriage (together 8 years, married for 4years.)
I've had enough...

We had a blow up a couple weeks ago where I told him that if things didn't change, I want a divorce.

He has made an effort with somethings, but it doesn't feel like enough. And feels like it's to little to late...

I do all the house work, take care of all the bills minus the mortgage, I take care of the food shopping, childcare arrangements, meals....pretty much all of it as well as working a rotating roster of late and night shifts at work... which I have to drive an hour to get to.

He works 6 days a week.
He has started to do dishes a couple times a week, started to shower a little more often. And had stopped body shaming me... masked as "jokes"...yes, I'm a curvy/heavier set lady... but I'm happy with my body and currently weigh less than I did when I got pregnant.
He used to nag me for sex all the time even though I never wanted it.
I have started to try making the effort to have sex with him more often... but it's difficult when I simply am not interested.

I've come to the realisation that, although I love him as our child's father... I am no longer IN love with him.

I'm scared and sad about it, but I know I have to do something about it....
Please help 🙁🥺

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Am I wrong for feeling this way

So i am a jealous person when it comes to my marriage or relationship. So last night we were just sitting on the couch watching tv and i saw the snapchat notification of a girl emoji. so i jokingly asked my husband who is this girl? my mil was also there. my husband is like show me and he opened the msg and he’s like oh that’s my school friend and she has apparently replied to one the snap my husband sent her of our toddler playing in park. and she was like oh so cute. and there were some snaps she shared of her kid and it was saved. I didn’t get jealous because i saw that but what if there’s something else in this friendship. yea i do overthink because i’m like this. and my husband saw my face and he got pissed and he’s like are you doubting on me or something. i’m like no no i was laughing but he can read my face and mind. 🙄 i don’t think he’s having an affair with her or something she’s an average looking. but i thought we already talked about not talking to another gender who is not our mutual friend you know . well, because it creates misunderstandings. so he agreed. and he’s getting mad at me for even thinking of that about him and not trusting him. im like no i don’t trust other person i don’t know their intentions right. so i’m just thinking am i wrong in this? should i not ask about it again? the bitch in me wont let me ignore this lol. but at the same time i don’t want to ruin anything spray when we are both very in happy and healthy relationship at this time.

Fuss over nothing?

My son went to a birthday party on Saturday and he was given one of those paper wristbands to wear.
Fast forward to Tuesday and he won't take it off. He's going into preschool today and his friends from the party will be there and I just want to cut it off him. I don't want people to think he hasn't had a bath since Saturday (which he hasn't 🤣 every night his dad has gone to give him a bath and been exhausted so he's been sponging him down and throwing him into bed).
His dad says I am upsetting him for no reason and we should just let him wear it.
I don't know, I just wish he'd had a bath yesterday? It feels wrong sending him into school but he is only 4.

Is this wrong?

My boyfriend and I will fight, if I cry or panic and I go to him because he is still what I consider my safe space at the end of the day. Even though he sucks at comforting me I still give him the benefit of the doubt because of how he grew up. When my boyfriend and I fight if he starts to cry or panic he goes straight to his mom.

He started doing this like 5 minutes ago while arguing and I told him he needs to stop going to his mom and come to me weather we are fighting or not because I am supposed to be his safe space. He kinda just ignored me so I walked away.

Am I wrong? Or is this wrong?

Traveling with Baby

Hey all! I want to travel with my baby once before I have to go back to work. What age (in months) is best to travel (by plane) and what are some places you have gone that are baby-safe/friendly?

First foods

Has anyone here introduced small amounts of purees and cereals to their 4 month old?? What did u introduce? I want to start with whipped bone marrow but maybe that should wait until 6months???

My 3yo son doesn't get motivated unless I lose my temper I am so tired of it

Won't get in the car until I reach yelling decibels

He's overtired but won't sleep unless I lose my patience (I've tried everything trust me)

I am keeping my cool on so many levels but he seems to respond well to being yelled at.

I try to work on my leadership skills and positive approach BUT IT'S BEGINNING TO LOOK LIKE IT DOESN'T WORK ON HIM

IN THE END I FEEL LIKE A BAD MOTHER BECAUSE I REACHED THOSE PRIMAL SCREAMING LEVELS

My friend who is an educator said some kids respond to it it's just how they are? REALLY?!