My 3yo son doesn't get motivated unless I lose my temper I am so tired of it

Won't get in the car until I reach yelling decibels

He's overtired but won't sleep unless I lose my patience (I've tried everything trust me)

I am keeping my cool on so many levels but he seems to respond well to being yelled at.

I try to work on my leadership skills and positive approach BUT IT'S BEGINNING TO LOOK LIKE IT DOESN'T WORK ON HIM

IN THE END I FEEL LIKE A BAD MOTHER BECAUSE I REACHED THOSE PRIMAL SCREAMING LEVELS

My friend who is an educator said some kids respond to it it's just how they are? REALLY?!

in our community

Walking

This was my walk today will it count to any weight lose? I’m trying to walk everyday!

Am I being unreasonable?

I currently have a 7 week old and a 7 year old. My husband came home from work I had made him his tea which he ate, he then held the baby whilst I had a quick tidy up and put all the washing away.
He then informed me he was going to the pub to watch the football.
I asked if he could stay home as my eldest still has homework to do, the baby needs a bath, I need to express some milk, and it’s hard work getting them both to sleep, I also haven’t eaten any tea yet, I am shattered and I have a broken ankle to add to the mix.
He said I always make him feel like shit whenever he wants to do something and I shouldn’t have a problem with it. He then proceeded to tell me I should go
Out more often as he would prefer it 😡

Would you be upset by a toddler crying in a restaurant?

So yesterday my toddler had a pretty long day, almost no nap. We've been away from home for several days and she's a little dysregulated. We took her out for dinner and she had a pretty big meltdown near the end of the meal, and was also a bit fussy and hard to entertain until we got our food. The only time she really got to screaming-crying was at the end though, and we took her out quickly.

I came across a Reddit thread about an "entitled parent" with a screaming toddler in a restaurant. A lot of the comments below were of the opinion those parents should have made their kid be quiet, or taken her out, or just not gone out at all. I kind of get it. No one wants to be around a screaming kid that isn't theirs.

For us though the thing is that it was our last night out of town, we were all tired and had no food left in the airbnb because we plan these things pretty tight. We also didn't really want to do fast food or takeout because we had been having a LOT of terrible food and wanted to eat a decent meal (I'm pregnant, and fatty foods in particular are making me nauseated, so real food and good nutrition is kind of important for me). I felt bad taking my toddler out while she was overtired, and I get that it's generally kinder to not take an overtired child out in public, but in our case I really kind of felt like we had no choice.

So AITA? Should we have just stayed back at the Airbnb and gotten takeout? 🫤

Nursery or Childminders?

My husband and I are currently applying for nursery waitlists for our baby’s childcare but I recently got into a conversation with a mum who favoured childminders for her two children. Anyone with first hand experience able to share which option they chose and why? It’s our first child so we have no experience with it other than the fact I’m a teacher (but for secondary).

Ranting because i have no one/Advice welcome

Me and my baby daddy have been together almost 2 years and when we found out i was pregnant he was so excited but now it seems like he barely even remembers or cares about anything other than the gender and it having a name he wants, took me begging him to start looking at names and he’s been of no help trying to find a OB or hospital to use..he’s helped with practically nothing and just complains about when he’s hurting or in pain..like how do you think i feel. And every time i ask him to help research or say im overwhelmed he just acts like its not that big of a deal..i feel like I’m doing this alone and its getting old. We have 2 big dogs and he hasn’t taken them out in weeks even on his days off he doesn’t take care of them to give me a break and they were his dogs before we even met (i take them out (down and up stairs every time which is gonna be hard when the baby gets here) i also feed them and take care of the house and make dinner every night) Thinking about just moving back to Illinois to my moms atp. Its just getting annoying especially cuz half the time he don’t even act like he wants anything to do with me..i feel like i shouldn’t be begging for a bf who cares about me or our future kid. Any advice?

Separation Anxiety

Please could anyone advise me on the best way to deal with separation anxiety for my 13 month old? He has been going to nursery since he was 6 months and has always loved going. The past week he has been so upset at handover and not settling and I've been going back for him because he just won't settle. He's also struggling on a night time, he settles fine to go to sleep but then wakes up and won't go back into his own bed. He usually stays with my mum on a Wednesday when he's not at nursery but he won't even settle with her so I have been going to get him from there too. I am just struggling with what to do for the best especially because I am having to take so much time off work.