Curious! SAHM, how much does hubby bring in?

Cause i wanna be sahm but idk if my husbands income is enough

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Depends where you live and your home/lifestyle.

If you are in a flat up north in the UK you can comfortably live on a lot less than a house down south.

Your husband’s wage has to cover all overheads, so to judge if that’s enough you need to really find out what your monthly/annual expenses are. That’s your rent/mortgage, any debt repayments, all utilities, council tax, pension savings, insurances, food bills, childcare, car expenses, clubs/activities for the kids etc.

If it covers all that at £60k then that’s perfect for you guys, if not he’ll need to make more. You also need to discuss your finance too, access to all accounts, possibly funding your private pension to make up for years out of service and so on.

Depends on where you live really and what your bills are. We made a budget and keep to it and find ways to save. We live comfortably with my husband bringing in 98k

I live in New Jersey in the US. My husband makes over 200k on his own but it’s honestly needed in this area. I was also working from home full time but we think i’ll stop once my leave is up and just live off his income. He makes more than most people do but his job is dangerous and he works insane hours so it is a give and take.

Im guessing youre not from the UK because wtf🤣 in this country that is big money, especially coming from one person. Noone can answer this question for you, it all depends on where you live and the lifestyle you want for you and your family

What currency?

My husbands makes over 200k a year. We cannot survive without my working too.

Jointly, we bring in about $80k USD a year. We have 1 kid, and rent. About $30k of that I make. It’s definitely tight at times, but it works. I work PT at the moment.

My husband is military and he brings home 3400 after taxes a month and we live somewhat comfortably depends on what bills get taken out… and we have 1 kid and 1 on the way. And I stay at home, if I absolutely need to get a job I will but he has told me I shouldn’t need to

in our community

Fuss over nothing?

My son went to a birthday party on Saturday and he was given one of those paper wristbands to wear.
Fast forward to Tuesday and he won't take it off. He's going into preschool today and his friends from the party will be there and I just want to cut it off him. I don't want people to think he hasn't had a bath since Saturday (which he hasn't 🤣 every night his dad has gone to give him a bath and been exhausted so he's been sponging him down and throwing him into bed).
His dad says I am upsetting him for no reason and we should just let him wear it.
I don't know, I just wish he'd had a bath yesterday? It feels wrong sending him into school but he is only 4.

Is this wrong?

My boyfriend and I will fight, if I cry or panic and I go to him because he is still what I consider my safe space at the end of the day. Even though he sucks at comforting me I still give him the benefit of the doubt because of how he grew up. When my boyfriend and I fight if he starts to cry or panic he goes straight to his mom.

He started doing this like 5 minutes ago while arguing and I told him he needs to stop going to his mom and come to me weather we are fighting or not because I am supposed to be his safe space. He kinda just ignored me so I walked away.

Am I wrong? Or is this wrong?

First foods

Has anyone here introduced small amounts of purees and cereals to their 4 month old?? What did u introduce? I want to start with whipped bone marrow but maybe that should wait until 6months???

MIL more of a hindrance than a help - what would you do?

My Mother in Law is a lovely woman with such a kind heart and loves her grandchildren so much.

I like her and don’t mind spending time with her (in small doses!).

She is SO loud and has no awareness (can’t read a room) and since having my youngest baby (I have 3 kids) she keeps on assisting on coming over to ‘help’ every Tuesday for the WHOLE day.

But she doesn’t help 🙈 her personality is choatic, she is clumsy and just adds to my stress.
She tries to help bless her but ends up making a mess, it is impossible to get my baby to sleep because she is so loud and doesn’t seem to think it’s a big deal when she wakes the baby.

I have tried in subtle ways to put a stop to it but because I know her intentions are good, I don’t want to offend her.

What would you do?

Dairy & Egg free

Any dairy & egg free breakfast lunch and dinner ideas? I mainly struggle with breakfast ideas for LO. She reacts to eggs & dairy both :(

Night time routine

I love my husband but being home most nights with two under three is not easy . He works over night and that what’s works for us financially. But it’s hard not having a lot of support . Any other moms feel like this