Literally heartbroken
If you take the time to read this, then thank you, so much.
Tonight I have cried my eyes out for over an hour, thinking why do I deserve my children.
As a family we sat down and had a meal, that I had spent 2 hours preparing and cooking - our 7 month old is doing BLW, he was gagging, my husband will continuously interfere by trying to put water in his mouth, I spoke and said it’s best not to do that, it’s a natural thing they need to learn. He disagreed, literally did not want to listen.
I am struggling so badly at the moment with a toddler who turn 2 last month and a 7 month old, a SAHM who has worked all her life. I’m do get cross sometimes as my toddler will push me, my baby will cry whatever I try to do to help him. I have done EVERY night feed and wake up, even after an emergency CS. And tonight, my husband said that I don’t contribute to pay towards anything, I am horrible to my kids, I tell them no, I don’t go to work… i literally do 2 x £100 monthly food shops in a month, look after kids 24/7 with no break, been potty training, buy their clothes, the nappies, the general care and dr appts, the tantrums.
We have our arguments. But tonight hurt me. Like a blunt knife stabbing me over and over again. I feel like I shouldn’t have been given the opportunity to be a mum, especially after 2 miscarriages (with my husband so he knows). I just want to run away. But I love my kids too much. I try my hardest, I really do. I’ve always suffered with mental health, emotions, etc, he knows that. My kids are my life and tonight I looked at them and thought they just deserve so much better than me. 😭😭
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No hunny, they deserve a better father. You go and work and leave the kids to your husband, he wont be able to do half the job that you do. You should tell him being a sahm is a full time, 24hr job!
I'd like to see him hve a c section and raise a child, no the men would act like they're dying.
Sorry but this post just made me angry. You're an amazing mother! Dont ever forget that!
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As above. This is no reflection on you at all. A lot of men think they have life harder and think going to work makes them some kind of hero. But they couldn’t do the job you do, you’re doing great and I wouldn’t let your husband make you feel any different x
SAHM mums deserve the same credit as working parents (if not more at times!). You sound like you're doing an amazing job. You deserve respect. Don't doubt yourself - your kids are lucky to have a mum who does what you do 💪🏻 personally I would be asking your husband to for a moment where you can find some balance. A moment for you. We all need that for our mental health at times. Most importantly, know you are doing a great job.
Girl I have had feelings similar to this, thinking that I didn't deserve to be a mum and I'm not good enough and none of that is true - you are exhausted and overwhelmed.
If your partner will communicate with you I'd sit down and have a chat about what you both want life to look like moving forward. Do you want to go back to work? What would that look like? Solidify splitting of the work fairly! Parenting is a full time 24/7 job and doing it alone is very intense and very tiring (no matter how much you also love being a mum). You are a human and it's okay for it to be hard because it is hard.
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