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Baby sleep consultants have made an industry out of exhausted mums wanting a ‘fix’ to their babies sleep, even though there’s no such thing

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I do think it’s prying on desperate parents willing to try anything to get some sleep. But there definitely is a “fix” in a lot of situations. You don’t have to have a sleep consultant for that you can do your own research but there are definitely things you can do to help your babies sleep. Mine has had a 7pm bed time and consistent independent naps since 3 months old. But that all came from research I did and things I implemented

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My personal opinion is the attitude towards and ‘importance’ of sleep training comes from America, as so many parents have to go back to work *so* early they want to - and probably do benefit from - parent led / enforced routines from early on. That’s now encroaching inti the U.K., despite us having ‘extended’ time off and being able to more closely follow baby’s cues / let them lead for longer.

Basically yet another thing rooted in capitalism and patriarchy âœŒđŸ»

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Some babies sleep can be adjusted and some babies are sent from hell to destroy you. But I agree, it does prey on the desperate

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I had never heard of sleep consultants until I joined peanut so I looked into it. Anyone can call themselves that just like a life coach. Gives me the ick.

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Why unpopular? Doesn’t everyone know this?

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How do you get newborn to sleep in the next to me?

I have tried but end up giving up, going downstairs putting him in the carry cot and he is absolutely fine/drifts off!

Ive tried putting a top in the next to me so he can smell me but that doesn't seem to work.

Environment is the same; dark room etc.

He's 7 days old today, is it just perseverance and eventually he will just do it? Or are there any tips to encourage him to stay/sleep in the next 2 me?

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Hi guys ! I know this isn't a paternity test but this one guy I was seeing for a very short time thinks I'm pregnant with his kid I got back together with my first borns dad and the one guy is saying the kid looks like him I think it looks

Like my baby daddy but idk I'll post pics in the comments!

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Private parts

Soo, my five year old foster kiddo has been with us for about three months now and he is constantly grabbing his penis to the point he makes it hard. I haven't had to deal with this ever, so I'm not quite sure how to handle it. I've tried telling him he can only touch it when he's alone, going to the bathroom, or washing it, but he hasn't stopped. I don't want to shame him over something that's natural, but I also don't want him grabbing himself in front of people. Help!

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2 stages in one!

3 months in and WOW
 nobody warned me about this stage 😂😭

One minute she’s smiling, cooing, the sweetest little angel

Next minute I’m being screamed at because I dared to change her nappy or put a sleeve on the wrong arm 🙃

Apparently this is a “developmental leap” AND the start of an early sleep regression

I call it:
✹ tiny human with BIG emotions and zero patience (and no interest in sleep) ✹

We’ve got:
‱ 30 minute naps
‱ dramatic outfit changes
‱ only-mum-will-do moments
‱ random meltdowns for absolutely no reason (or all the reasons??)
‱ and a sleep schedule that changes its mind daily 😅

But also
 the smiles, the cuddles, the way she settles on me like I’m her whole world đŸ„č

So yeah
 it’s a lot right now.
Messy, exhausting, emotional
 but still somehow the best thing ever.

Anyone else in the trenches with a 3 month old? Send help
 or snacks đŸ˜…đŸ€

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I can’t take it anymore

Just cannot take it anymore
been up for
2 hours, baby won’t stop crying unless we pick him up. Doesn’t nap independently either so it’s either holding him for an entire nap or contact napping but then he wakes up if you’re not standing.

I CANNOT do this anymore. I feel like I’ve got no choice but let him cry it out
.put the monitor on, leave him in the cot and leave the flat so I can’t hear him cry.

My back, my wrist, my mental are all shattered and it’s affected my couple and relationships with family (who’s just judgmental as in this was due to bad parenting), any concerns raised with professional bodies (NHS) aren’t addressed (why is the NHS so crap?!). HV doesn’t respond to me when I ask for advice on feeding. Physio cancels on us and doesn’t reschedule
.and doesn’t reply.

Not sure where to go nor what to do

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Breast pumps

I need suggestions on wearable non expensive breast pumps, I’ve heard about the momcozy ones but they’re way out of my price range, I’m looking for one that is strong as the one I have now is just so weak and does nothing

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