Avoidant

My baby will be 1 soon and the whole pregnancy/postpartum was insane/ very emotional with his dad. This man will only do for our son when i ask and if i can’t physically go shopping with him he argues with me and then send stuff through Amazon which is fine with me. The part that’s not fine is he wants to be with me but he has deep mommy traumas and some bad habits/trauma from his ex wife, so he very mean or take no accountability for his negative output. He pushes me away when goes through things in life but expects me to read his mind and know how to fix HIS issues not help him out but to him I’m supposed to fix them. I’m not one to diagnose but he has a lot of traits of a fearful avoidant & he refuses to go to a therapist. I’m at my last straw because his mental health is starting to take a toll on my mental health because he doesn’t want to work on it. He keeps saying I need to fix it! How is his traumas my fault or why does this man think I’m supposed to fix him. Last thing is because we’re not together he doesn’t want to see our son unless all 3 of us are together in the same space. I’ve been trying to keep my distance because of the toll this has taken on me but now all my son gets from him is Amazon packages. I’m one of them mothers that take co parenting super seriously because I have a 14 yo by someone else and me and his dad have a great understanding but this second one my god!!!!

Just needed to quickly vent!

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Do I speak to the mum?

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Recently, my 2 year old has started to pull ALL his toys and throw his stuff around when he doesn't get what he wants or we don't pay attention to him for more than 2 minutes. What am I doing wrong? What do I do because today I LOST it, in what I feel is a bad way. I'm at my wits end and hate it. It's like he doesn't listen unless I'm yelling and I don't want to be like this....I grew up in a home like that and it was like walking on eggshells.

Please give me some real constructive advice, I'm out of my element. And please don't suggest getting him tested or how these are signs of some sort of diagnosis...ita not, I know for a fact. He's just a smart, active little boy.

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