Should I confront him?

I’m literally due in 5days…. My partner smokes (I used to prior to being pregnant…no biggie at all)
He ran out of papers and left to go buy some but it was taking unusually long I called 2-3 times no answer his excuse is the phone was in crease of car (basically didn’t hear it couldn’t find it while driving back) he comes home and I see his phone get a couple texts while he walks off I look over and it’s whole convo with a girl he just went to smoke with like he literally left the house while I was putting our daughters to bed (both two under two)….. I really don’t know what to do or how confront him with out him playing victim or stressing myself days before labor

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Beat that ahh

Honestly you need to talk to him but don’t let him make you feel crazy or guilty for how you feel your feelings matter just as much and should be validated because if he’s doing it now their could be a chance of him doing it again ( if you don’t speak with him)

Girl wtf? My husband and I both drank and smoked prior to my pregnancy and I can count on one single hand the amount of times he drank while I was pregnant, smoked none. My husband helped change my mind on not just men, people tbh. He said it wasn't fair he gets to and I don't. He drank at a separate party we all went to with our roommates after my gender reveal and I didn't mind, I didn't drink but I got to play beer pong (and my team won😋) and meet new people, if this mf left while I was putting our kids down, to go smoke with another woman because I can't smoke during the time, he can go back to that btch and spend the night there because he ain't spending the night with me. Now if it was like some homies and they have gfs or wives or a girl they're hanging out with, we still are decently young, that wouldn't bother me too much, if he didn't tell me first it would still bother me a bit, but like, left to go smoke with a chick alone, HELL NO

The fact that he made up a whole excuse said enough instead of saying the truth.

in our community

Tell me this isn't a normal convo between hubby and wife..

Please read before voting cause I'm mega pissed off!! We were having a convwrsation about ticktock which lead to his favourite person (a woman with an Of account & 2 kids under 30 apparently)

Me: well she's young she can eat what she likes and burn it off. When you hit 30, game over (from experience)
Him: not everyone restricts themselves like you
Me: I just don't eat that much
Him: well shes had two kids and still looking fine.. *smirk*
Me: 😒
Him: truth..
Me: wtf!! You can't say stuff like that with that smirk and not expect me to kick off..
Him: you're over reacting again..
Me: any woman would be annoyed..

And so the conversation turned into an argument about him being wrong and said he prefers younger looking women than his 34yr old wife who is a size 6 UK BTW

Are men just stupid or what?? When doesn't he realise that it's not okay to talk like this to people when he's obsessed with ticktock??

Again something I never thought my daughter would like

I gave her one because she kept staring at me eating. She's had 5 since. She's 10.5 months. My 3 yo refused to even eat the rice because it touched a chip.

Husband is a jerk

Tell me if this is ridiculous.

We took our son to the park this morning because I wanted to get out of the house. My husband is always starting at his computer, he woke up late (it’s a Saturday), I made breakfast, got my son up, changed his diaper, cleaned the kitchen.

We made plans with my sister in law to meet up an hour away to get our kids together. After we get home from the park, we have 25 minutes until we need to leave. I’m packing snacks, feeding our toddler, trying to get everything ready to go while my husband sits on his computer and makes himself a smoothie. I have to tell him to let his dog out and to pack the diaper bag. Mind you, I told him I needed to get my makeup on and pack up my lunch.

He doesn’t care he goes to the bathroom and gets himself ready.

I’m pissed. I’m tired of delegating and mothering. I said we just wouldn’t go. And he says he’s just going to go without me even though I’m the one who wants to get out and see people, packs things up and gets everyone ready.

Am I the asshole or is he?

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My little boy started weaning today, he currently has 4 8ozish bottles a day. 8-9 am, 11 am - 12 pm, 3-4 pm then last bottle around 7-8 pm then sleeps through the night.
How and where would I put these purées in? Is it time to start extending time between the bottles and add purées in between? Any advice is welcomed x