Husband is a jerk

Tell me if this is ridiculous.

We took our son to the park this morning because I wanted to get out of the house. My husband is always starting at his computer, he woke up late (it’s a Saturday), I made breakfast, got my son up, changed his diaper, cleaned the kitchen.

We made plans with my sister in law to meet up an hour away to get our kids together. After we get home from the park, we have 25 minutes until we need to leave. I’m packing snacks, feeding our toddler, trying to get everything ready to go while my husband sits on his computer and makes himself a smoothie. I have to tell him to let his dog out and to pack the diaper bag. Mind you, I told him I needed to get my makeup on and pack up my lunch.

He doesn’t care he goes to the bathroom and gets himself ready.

I’m pissed. I’m tired of delegating and mothering. I said we just wouldn’t go. And he says he’s just going to go without me even though I’m the one who wants to get out and see people, packs things up and gets everyone ready.

Am I the asshole or is he?

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He also throws in my face that he’s “the provider” but I also have a job. We wouldn’t even be able to pay or bills or get groceries if it was up to him. My job is laid back because I’m “on call” and work from home but still. Part of me feels like he has put me in this position with the stress of a job and household responsibilities and delegating. ONE time I had slept in since my two year old some was born.

Oh mama he’s not a nice person… especially if he throws it in your face that he’s a “provider”. As if going to work means you have to ignore your responsibilities as a father and husband. You’re not in the wrong here. I’m sorry to hear that and honestly I feel you .. go through something similar except I’m a sahm mom and don’t have a job so yeah. It sucks feeling like you have to be a mom to two kids

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